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    Today in things that never happened:

    Or maybe it would happen in the US. I wouldn’t be surprised anymore.

        • @[email protected]
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          2926 days ago

          I am not a women but if you go outside with them you will see it.
          Any time a woman stands up for anything that a shitty man disagrees with they say the same shit. Every time.

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          YES. Literally yes.

          I’ve been approached by men who say I’m wearing too much makeup and that men don’t like that. That I should smile more if I want a boyfriend. That my clothes aren’t very flattering and it’s unattractive to him.

          Like, for all your talk of “go outside” you don’t seem to know what life is like for women outside.

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            Hearing a girlfriend express a lack of confidence because she wouldn’t get accosted kind of fucked me up. A moment of realization that the way the world is is so drastically different from the way I want to believe it is, I didn’t know where to start.

            I try to build a habit of reacting to feeling upset with behavior by thinking up a situation that could lead me to act in the same way, but I really struggle to imagine what would make someone inclined to approach a stranger on the street with this kind of comment.

            Totally unrelated, but I’ve seen comics from this artist before and they’ve always given me weirdly unsettling vibes. I can’t really pinpoint if it’s the dialogue or the art style.

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            Not excusing ignorance but it is wild how different the experience of the average man or woman can be just existing in public. It makes sense to me that a man who is largely a basement dweller would have no first hand exposure to that sort of behavior.

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              Mine? America. I even live in a very blue “progressive” area. But I have friends in the UK that have similar experinces. Frankly, why would that even matter? This sort of thing happens all over.

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                  I mean. Okay? Maybe? But that’s not really the point?

                  I’m just trying to address how unrealistic you thought this comic was. But it is a accurate depiction of a regular experince for many women’s lives.

                  Honestly it seems like you’re just trying to “win” the discussion by correcting others. When women talk about the problems they face, it’s not helpful for you to go “That doesn’t happen”.

                  • Christian
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                    When women talk about the problems they face, it’s not helpful for you to go “That doesn’t happen”.

                    Your bias is showing, that’s not a helpful response when anyone talks about their problems. Not just women.

                    Talking more seriously (but not that much more), I have some appreciation for being this brazen in the whole “I live in the real world and know women aren’t shown disrespect out of nowhere by men they don’t know, unlike you women with your lived experiences” shtick.

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                  If you were even vaguely representative of Scandinavians, I’d steer clear. Luckily, I have family in Norway and Finland, so I know you’re just an ass and are full of shit.

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                    Is that like the American “2% of something” family in Scandinavia? Because that really means very little.

                • AwesomeLowlander
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                  I live in Norway. While it is less prevalent here than elsewhere, please understand that it still very much exists.

        • _cryptagion [he/him]
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          826 days ago

          Listen, just because nobody has ever seen you as attractive doesn’t mean that’s the experience most people have.

    • @[email protected]
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      6926 days ago

      Either you never seen the comment section of any post ever, or you the dude who makes these kind of comments.

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        Yes, because comment sections on Lemmy/Reddit/Social Media are a good metric for what happens AFK. We saw that when Lemmy/Reddit perfectly predicted the crushing loss of Donald Trump.

        Oh wait…

        I’d suggest going out more and hanging out with real people.

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          I think they’re referring to the online experience. Every single post about some “woman who does something intelligent / skillful”, with enough attention (and it doesn’t take much!), will contain guys being absolute shits.

          Seems like the confusion can be attributed to assuming the discussion was limited to “being outside”.

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          We saw that when Lemmy/Reddit perfectly predicted the crushing loss of Donald Trump.

          As I recall Lemmy/Reddit was telling people how important it was to vote, because Trump wasn’t guaranteed to lose, and if he wins he’s going to become a dictator.

          Seems pretty accurate to me.

          But you seem to have a pattern of not actually listening to what people are saying so I’m not surprised you got that wrong.

        • BeardedBlaze
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          You’re not from US, but somehow you know what hanging out with real people is like here?

      • Alaknár
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        Try asking any female friend

        Why don’t you also ask him to end world hunger while you’re at it? He has equal chances at both.

      • @[email protected]
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        I’ll ask my work colleagues in the union club. I’m sure perhaps my colleagues from Arabic countries might relate, but that’s about it.