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    42 months ago

    Just chill, there’s an insurmountable amount of work to have a perfect house. Is that what truly gives you happiness, or is it the untidiness that gives you unease?

    And either case, is that truly coming from you or the family/peer pressure?

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      22 months ago

      Great comment, but IMO telling someone to “just chill” almost never has the desired effect.

      That is the goal though, so I’m not saying you’re wrong.

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      2 months ago

      It’s neither, honestly. Great question, really.

      I’ll be honest: I’m an alcoholic finally doing the work to never touch that shit again. So in that, I’ve been doing a lot of “finding myself”. I’ve been trying to be a bit more conscious of things and to also do a lot less sitting around playing video games and watching YouTube and Twitch. And I’ve found that being in a nice space is really comforting, so I started working on my tidiness. And that’s where I found those things I mentioned.

      I wouldn’t say it’s coming from my family, it might not even be coming from me. It feels like a “societal” thing. I hate to use this example, but like Jordan Petersen saying “make your bed”.

      I don’t know, I’ve also found myself feeling “worthless” in the dating and sex scene, so it’s also probably coming from there. I think “what girl would want to hangout in a shitty room?”

      I got a lot to process lmfao

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        22 months ago

        That is wholesome to hear. And I get you, society has some norms that are actually healthy when you mention it like that: shower frequently and don’t let the house turn into a stinking cave 😃

        Good on ya, and remember to be grateful to yourself for the results and actually take a minute to enjoy the outcomes.