My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents’ job to provide for the children. They shouldn’t see children as retirement plan.
My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can’t stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)
What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.
She needs to stop pressing my button.
I think its fair to expect your children to take care of you when youre old. But you also need to treat them well enough whrre they want to. Sounds like she hasn’t done the 2nd part.
Taking care of them shouldn’t require you to spend all your money, they still need a retirement plan.
That’s what a family is, children are part of the community and should be responsible for the goodwill.
Also parents are traumatized, don’t understand therapy. Children are usually only hope they have.