My mom glorifies herself. When parents plan for children, it is the parents’ job to provide for the children. They shouldn’t see children as retirement plan.
My mom keeps guilt tripping me. I finally told her I can’t stand her and she will need to use her money to take care of herself in the future. (I have been paying for her bills.)
What kind of parents put such pressure on their kids? She thinks she has sacrificed a lot of me. She raised me for the first twenty years. I have repaid with interest already.
She needs to stop pressing my button.
Your parents are obligated to take care of you when you first come into the world. I don’t think you need to repay them for that obligation. They made you. You didn’t ask to be born. It’s the least they can do. That’s how I view it and I know it’s not standard.
I love my mom and I would try to take care of her if/when she needs help with her age, but I wouldn’t say I feel obligated.
Thank you. I love her too but she loves to take advantage of me. I am feeling so angry.
She sees me as an ATM and intends to leave her inheritance to my nieces and nephews as I can’t have children