I’ve heard it explained that “hey” used to be more of an urgent way to get someone’s attention, rather than a casual “hello” like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.

    • @[email protected]
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      And why do people need to pander to you specifically? Cant people be themselves?

      Those are narcissistic traits.

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        Who said anything about me, specifically? Saying “no problem” makes you sound insincere or that the task the customer asked you to do, was literally no problem and that’s the only reason you complied. There are all kinds of ways people can interpret that, but only one way to interpret “you’re welcome”.

        I’m not going to say anything if you say that, but don’t act surprised when older people aren’t as forgiving.

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          If someone says you’re welcome, you know they are a corporate drone and management wants them to say that to avoid certain people making a scene. Why’s it insincere to say no problem? In the same vein, they only said you’re welcome because they are complying too.

          There’s no issues with saying no problem unless you want there to be. Those are cool workplaces.

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            22 years ago

            I just pointed out the problem. That phrase can interpreted many ways. We are also not talking about office buildings, we are specifically talking about the hospitality industry, where the language you use makes a significant impact on the customer’s experience.

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              42 years ago

              And so can you’re welcome. So why does it matter which phrase if both can be misconstrued?

              Language matters everywhere, who mentioned anything about an office building?

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            22 years ago

            I personally see “anytime” as a much more appropriate reply to “thank you” than “no problem”.

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          42 years ago

          The implication is that a problem was assumed until “no problem” was stated.

          “No problem” is absolutely low key rude.

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          only one way to interpret “you’re welcome”

          This is just wrong. Tone matters just as much with “you’re welcome” as it does with “no problem”. Language is fluid like that, and it’s completely arbitrary to elevate one of these expressions over the other when both are in common usage.

          Also, you’re deliberately misrepresenting what “no problem” means, in regards to “that’s the only reason you complied”. Nobody says it that way, and I don’t believe that you think they do.

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            12 years ago

            Using semantics to make your point, is lazy and misleading. Of course you could say “you’re welcome” in a tone that could be taken as rude, but that wasn’t the point. The point was showing the difference between the two phrases.

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        12 years ago

        You’re right, why should words actually have an inherent meaning? 🤦🏻‍♂️

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          42 years ago

          They literally don’t (with the possible exception of onomatopoeic words), one of the defining factors of language is that it is arbitrary.

          • Ramόn Sánchez
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            It’s obviously arbitrary, given how we’re changing the meanings of words to fit the current narrative, but that doesn’t change anything.

            It kills me, that zoomers and young millennials think that it’s the older generation that’s the problem, rather than the generation complaining about how another generation reacts to certain words in certain atmospheres. If you can’t understand why they react that way, maybe you should be looking in the mirror instead of criticizing them.

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              32 years ago

              This is an old pattern, language changes. You can react to it however you like, but things have already changed in your lifetime. Wicked or hot, for example,

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          They’re idiomatic phrases people are supposed to say by custom, divorced from their literal meanings.

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      “No problem” takes “You’re welcome” and implies that it was of no inconvenience to you either. But I understand that older generations find it important that service workers be most humbly at their service, and adhere to a strict social etiquette just short of “Yes, m’lord” and “Shall I suck upon your dick, sir?”

      “You’re welcome” is more appropriate in a professional setting, but if you’re getting your jimmies in a rustle over someone saying “No problem” to you instead, you’re a bit of an assfuck.

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        42 years ago

        I’ve never heard being polite described like that, oh my. 🤦🏻‍♂️

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          It’s literally meanings of words strung together being described.

          You are welcome = you are welcome to my servitude

          No problem = I don’t mind doing this thing for you

          Oh you. 🤦‍♀️

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          I don’t think either phrase is impolite. Good manners are a made up thing. If someone said ‘thanks’ to me and I said ‘tiddle dee dee’ I’m not being rude, just a bit weird, nobody’s honour has been questioned, I haven’t said anything that could be taken as an offence.

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        If you are a service worker at a restaurant, then that is literally your job, to serve.

        I love it when I order a sandwich at my local banh mi place near my office and you can see the cashier literally eye roll every customer that orders. They can’t even look you in the eye…

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          22 years ago

          If you want people to be happy to be serving you then demand that they are paid more.

          Otherwise buy your sandwich without any delusions of grandeur and fuck off.