This week I am practicing waving at people and saying hello, instead of nodding at people and saying hello, as a form of greeting at work. I am told nodding is a Dude Gesture, which must be a Command & Conquer reference else it’s completely illogical.
What other secretly gendered gestures and shit do I still have after so long? Honestly this whole “gender” thing seems kinda fuckin stupid sometimes.
i spend a lot of time analyzing cis women’s gender expression to figure out new cues i hadn’t considered. i literally just stopped doing the nod like a year ago after transitioning for half a decade now
I’m only stopping after nine years :) I have too much autism to do analysis lol, to neurotypicals I probably read like some kind of genderfreak, which tbh is sort of rad. Random people at my bluecollar job will use “they” for me totally unprompted.
people would they/them me a whole bunch when i first integrated into this new group. i think cis people would rather short circuit than ask someone what they prefer
To be completely fair, I once had a guy in an elevator ask me “hey so are you a guy or a girl?” and I was so floored I couldn’t even be snarky. Cis people SUCK at asking, lol.
I refuse to correct them until they get their shit together, Idk. They can wonder and be confused, fuck em. My gender is Fear Incarnate!
one time i had spent 2 hours in front of a guy explicitly talking about my gender and he still came up afterwards and asked the same question. i had the same reaction you did, fuck them. read the fucking manual
This week I am practicing waving at people and saying hello, instead of nodding at people and saying hello, as a form of greeting at work. I am told nodding is a Dude Gesture, which must be a Command & Conquer reference else it’s completely illogical.
What other secretly gendered gestures and shit do I still have after so long? Honestly this whole “gender” thing seems kinda fuckin stupid sometimes.
i spend a lot of time analyzing cis women’s gender expression to figure out new cues i hadn’t considered. i literally just stopped doing the nod like a year ago after transitioning for half a decade now
I’m only stopping after nine years :) I have too much autism to do analysis lol, to neurotypicals I probably read like some kind of genderfreak, which tbh is sort of rad. Random people at my bluecollar job will use “they” for me totally unprompted.
people would they/them me a whole bunch when i first integrated into this new group. i think cis people would rather short circuit than ask someone what they prefer
To be completely fair, I once had a guy in an elevator ask me “hey so are you a guy or a girl?” and I was so floored I couldn’t even be snarky. Cis people SUCK at asking, lol.
I refuse to correct them until they get their shit together, Idk. They can wonder and be confused, fuck em. My gender is Fear Incarnate!
one time i had spent 2 hours in front of a guy explicitly talking about my gender and he still came up afterwards and asked the same question. i had the same reaction you did, fuck them. read the fucking manual
I wave and nod. Proof that I’m bigender
Woah… if someone does both, now I know…
WHAT no idea this was a thing I nod at everyone.
Why do social conventions have to be so confusing, literally have to study people to interact in “appropriate” ways smh
I fuckin know right, I only found out recently. I just interact “inappropriately” all the dang time, cause fuck em =)
Ladies, is it masculine to rapidly move your head in a vertical range of motion, signifying affirmation and recognition of others?
Clearly
Nodding feels more respectful while waving feels more celebratory, idk why it should be gendered
This is true! It should not be, but the intersection of “traditional gender” norms and neurotypical social norms is an evil one!
I’ve been trying to force myself to stop the nod and failing. I really need to stop meeting people’s eyes while i’m walking.
Actually I realised today too, one of the reasons I’m such a Nodder is that it’s a good excuse to look away from someone very fast
Whereas if I wave at someone and say hello, uh where do my eyes go shit uhhh
100 percent the reason I do it, gives me a way to smoothly break eye contact