I hope everyone had a great week! Hang out. Chat. Talk about what’s going on. Have fun :3
Saw a new doctor today for my hrt - I have plenty of meds but really just want my blood tests covered by insurance. It’s always been really nerve-wracking talking about DIY with doctors ever since I had some bad experiences with my first few, but this doctor was just respectfully curious, wanted to know where it came from. Seems the mood towards DIY has changed since the 2000s. Or maybe it’s just because I’ve been on it so long. Either way, It’s nice.
Found an informed consent clinic that is “near” me but takes video calls so I don’t have to wait months for care hopefully. Just keep getting too anxious to call them to make an appointment
My loneliness exacerbates my (many) mental illnesses and my mental illnesses exacerbate my loneliness… and the lack of HRT isn’t helping.
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Same
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This is the most pro-trans website out there that isn’t explicitly a trans community.
But also, big respect to the cis people in that thread who are like “yeah I’ve thought a lot about my gender and I’m definitely cis.”
Even our cissies are more cis than the average person.
I think this is also the most pro-trans website out there that is a trans community?
Also WE LOVE OUR CISSIES DONT WE FOLKS
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Gettin cisphobic with it
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Just wanted to say that you did not fuck this up. You haven’t done anything wrong by being who you are and finding out at your own pace. It probably took a lot of bravery on your part to tell her & I’m sorry that she didn’t react well, but that’s far from being something you “fucked up”.
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That is NOT an easy decision to make. I genuinely hope you find a good solution in this to make yourself happy at the end of the day.
Your best bet is to probably have another sit down with her and explain how important this is to you. Long-term SOs tend to want to listen, but if she’s too old school, you’re going to have a major uphill battle. Either way, I wish you the best of luck.
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if brevity is the soul of wit then this autistic transfemme got to be the dumbest girl on earth. i literally cannot stop posting/talking
Relatable mood!!!
This week I am practicing waving at people and saying hello, instead of nodding at people and saying hello, as a form of greeting at work. I am told nodding is a Dude Gesture, which must be a Command & Conquer reference else it’s completely illogical.
What other secretly gendered gestures and shit do I still have after so long? Honestly this whole “gender” thing seems kinda fuckin stupid sometimes.
i spend a lot of time analyzing cis women’s gender expression to figure out new cues i hadn’t considered. i literally just stopped doing the nod like a year ago after transitioning for half a decade now
I’m only stopping after nine years :) I have too much autism to do analysis lol, to neurotypicals I probably read like some kind of genderfreak, which tbh is sort of rad. Random people at my bluecollar job will use “they” for me totally unprompted.
people would they/them me a whole bunch when i first integrated into this new group. i think cis people would rather short circuit than ask someone what they prefer
To be completely fair, I once had a guy in an elevator ask me “hey so are you a guy or a girl?” and I was so floored I couldn’t even be snarky. Cis people SUCK at asking, lol.
I refuse to correct them until they get their shit together, Idk. They can wonder and be confused, fuck em. My gender is Fear Incarnate!
one time i had spent 2 hours in front of a guy explicitly talking about my gender and he still came up afterwards and asked the same question. i had the same reaction you did, fuck them. read the fucking manual
Nodding feels more respectful while waving feels more celebratory, idk why it should be gendered
This is true! It should not be, but the intersection of “traditional gender” norms and neurotypical social norms is an evil one!
WHAT no idea this was a thing I nod at everyone.
Why do social conventions have to be so confusing, literally have to study people to interact in “appropriate” ways smh
I fuckin know right, I only found out recently. I just interact “inappropriately” all the dang time, cause fuck em =)
Ladies, is it masculine to rapidly move your head in a vertical range of motion, signifying affirmation and recognition of others?
Clearly
I’ve been trying to force myself to stop the nod and failing. I really need to stop meeting people’s eyes while i’m walking.
Actually I realised today too, one of the reasons I’m such a Nodder is that it’s a good excuse to look away from someone very fast
Whereas if I wave at someone and say hello, uh where do my eyes go shit uhhh
100 percent the reason I do it, gives me a way to smoothly break eye contact
I wave and nod. Proof that I’m bigender
Woah… if someone does both, now I know…
FIRST AWW YEAH, the fruits of getting up at 7am for work.
Great week, superb posting, thanks again for having me ❤
i shaved my sideburns
no more plausible deniability, I wanna try female hormonal chemistry
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i shaved my sideburns
are sideburns masc? I’ve been debating shaving mine but my gf said they’re neutral.
An old jacket of mine I really liked doesn’t fit anymore and it’s got me feeling some kind of way. I can wear it, but when it’s zipped I can’t breathe lol
The realisations I’ve had over the last few weeks that I actually pass is giving me a dangerous amount of confidence
I’m starting to see misogyny around the site and it’s starting to concern me. Just seems casual and here and there, but it’s getting upvoted, which concerns the hell out of me.
Ayo @[email protected] real? I’d only seen a couple scuffed comments on some of the “woke booba” posts, dang. We hate to see it.
There’s been a few that I’ve been able to sus out and had to report most of them. Fortunately they’ve all been removed. Some are “ironic” misogyny which isn’t funny, others are just misogyny, which is less funny. Specifically that one dating post was a minefield. The first thing I saw was the op pissing on polyam folks. That pissed me off. But there were a few in there that had me wanting to retch.
That dating post killed me, soon as I saw “cishet man zone” I was like oh boy… Glad now that I skipped it after reading the OP. Did you know that polyam people ackshually have it easy & are eating the dating market alive???
That shit pissed me off so much. It was just a toxic, thoughtless thread of poison that I’m surprised didn’t get wholly removed. The one post that really bothered me was some dude saying that western women were broken. That really just screams to me sexpat and misogynist. Piece of garbage.
dang i saw it and went “not for me” but if it was that bad you should probably start reporting that stuff. really gross!
I had noticed an uptick in dudes making dating posts, but I hadn’t paid very close attention cause I was like Eh, let em vent in the general mega I guess? But sometimes it did seem a bit yikes, and if it’s gonna lead to things like that thread…
It should be reigned in in some way in my eyes, but I am not a site admin so I have no power over that. Like, I don’t mind dating posts, but these folks gotta stop getting weird over it.
oh my god
i was on a discord call with like 2 queer friends last night. Girl name, she/her pronouns. I had earlier used that one nicer shampoo/conditioner that I’ve been leaving around my shower for god knows how long so this time my hair looked really good? Mid length, “masculine” cut but something about the way my headphones acted as a headband almost made my hair look really nice? My friend even noticed and commented on how she loved my hair
I spent like half an hour just kind of zoning out of the call looking at myself on the screen and for the first time I actually… felt nice. Like, I actually liked what I saw, I was visibly happy with myself. I ended up taking 5 selfies on that call and for the first time in my life I did that because I actually wanted to
still cis tho
Video calls can smooth things out and really make us look fem and pretty right? Blows my mind sometimes haha I should take more pictures
yeah, I actually ended up taking more photos of my computer screen than myself because that’s where i looked nicer. big shoutout to discord for putting up the femme filter for me apparently
this is so real! I often see myself in work slack calls (where I’m boymoding), and am confused as to why that has to be where I look the most fem.
I am still boymoding too and honestly I’m just here to gaslight people who think they are noticing changes lmao. I see people give me the extra long stare at work when talking to me and the little question mark pop up over their head 😂
Preening on the screen view of a video call is such a good vibe.
