Things that are so obvious and ingrained that no one even thinks about them.
Here’s a few:
All US americans can go to Mexico EASILY. You’re supposed to have a passport but you don’t even need one (for car/foot crossing). Versus, it’s really hard for Mexicans, who aren’t wealthy, to secure a VISA to enter the US. I’m sure there are corollaries in other geo-regions.
Another one is wealthy countries having access to vaccines far ahead of “poor” countries.
In US, we might pay lip service to equal child-hood education but most of the funding pulls from local taxes so some kids might receive ~$10000 in spending while another receives $2000. I’m not looking it up at the moment, but I’m SURE there are strong racial stratas.
“International community” and “international institutions”
Acting like the US is the only country with diversity and treating every other nationality in North America that isn’t Canada like a race.
Some people realize that the US is very big and lots of people immigrated to it, so of course it’s a very diverse place but can’t apply the same logic to China, Russia, India or Brazil.
Every time a local news channel covers a Black criminal (or even the idea of Black criminals, or hell, any Black person who can somehow be construed to be some sort of miscreant), they’re uniformly called a “thug” in every comment. Yeah it’s just self-censorship for the n word
Safety and process rigor when people talk about heavy industry. Shit like “300 people fall in a mineshaft every day in China it’s normal” and “it’s india they don’t care about safety there” as some indictment of the contempt for safety because of culture or something.
No it’s entirely based on your preconceived notions of these people. Truth is every plant ever is a massive safety concern, just that some are more amenable to cheap labour with lapses in safety, while others have shittons of money to throw to prevent all the disasters at the last moment. Seriously, it’s surprising just how much of our infrastructure is barely scraping by without incident
As someone who works in a “safety” focused industry, I hear stuff like this all the time. It’s not entirely untrue that yes, working conditions in underdeveloped countries can be worse than in the West, but no one stops to examine why, it always comes across as calipers shit. Sometimes plainly so.
It’s so nice to hear someone agree that this shit is racist. I bring it up and it’s constantly defended as “just a fact”.
Almost started to believe it wasn’t racist :(
some indictment of the contempt for safety because of culture or something
Covid death numbers
This infographic will never not be egg on the face of its creators.
According to WHO total COVID deaths in China were just over 10% the number of US COVID deaths despite China having greater than 4x the population. I’m not a math expert by any means but I calculate around 40x fewer deaths per capita in China compared to the US. Yet somehow China was determined to be less prepared for a pandemic than much of the west
And it started in China
It’s always the same map
Anytime you see shit like that just link them an article about Bhopal.
Bunch of westerners tried to set a high score for ignoring safety regulations at the constant protest of the local workers which, predictably, ended with chemical warfare against a population center “which the westerners then refused to alert the locals to”
I did not know about this incident. What the fuck.
When a mayo says, “Meritocracy”, they actually mean, “Every form of systemic oppression and violence ever conceived”.
The people in charge are the most deserving of power. As such, they can redefine “deserving of power” to mean whatever they want.
This is pretty insignificant, but it fucking drives me nuts. Whenever a couple goes somewhere and takes the woman’s car, the man drives. It’s like some silly power dynamic that is built into all M/F relationships in the US.
I prefer to be a passenger prince. I love looking out the window and making an airfoil with my hand.
I usually drive around town because my wife is often high as shit, but she usually drives on road trips because we get there several hours earlier.
Your wife sound fuckin rad
Yeah she’s a keeper.
Me in my hetero cis relationship where my strong beautiful girlfriend drives everytime.
Would really appreciate it if somebody would convince my girlfriend to help defeat gender norms by letting me be passenger sometime.
My wife hates being a passenger and I basically only drive if she has a migraine or isn’t present. I don’t know why someone would have a hangup about it, it’s nice.
In my experience this is more on a case-by-case basis based on the couple in question. Some people just don’t like to drive, and some other people really hate being a passenger while someone else is driving. Often it lines up that it can be win-win.
My mom’s (italian-american) husband is so on this tip. And he has to be the last person to order at a restaurant.
That’s a thing???
@.@
Flexing and driving my boyfriends car because he gets tired.
Coming out has made me realize there are so many little weird rituals and dynamics in straight relationships that just go totally unnoticed. Queer relationships are such a breath of fresh air
Holy shit how defensive my mother’s husband was over his NEED to ALWAYS be the driver, ESPECIALLY in his big truck, even as a child it confused me.
being driven around is gay unless you pay for it then it’s alpha because control fetish
I ask my wife to drive, no matter the car, but she only does it on long road trips. However, on long trips she’ll drive more than half just so I drive the bad parts like Chicago or Munising.
I’m so happy my girlfriend prefers to drive, being high in the passenger seat is so much better. If I could never be behind the wheel of a car again I’d die happy.
very true and usually, but not always, the man’s fault
It’s the little things like this that make me so thankful I got the parents I have. They’ve always split driving 50/50, or at least close enough that it never crossed my mind growing up that driving was the man’s duty or whatever weird power trip some guys make it.
Edit: also along the same lines, whenever you see a (outwardly hetero) couple on a tandem bike it’s almost always the man out in front with the woman staring at his back
My parents were divorced and both never dated or re-married, they sorta accomplished the same thing!
100% opposite in my relationship. Wife hates other people driving. I love having a chauffer.
Lol this happens often with me but my partner & I both hate driving so it’s an act of service more than anything.
Out of my parents my dad is EASILY the worse driver, he doesn’t even put his seatbelt on half the time
I always thought it was strange how widely accepted a statement like “I don’t date [Race]” is. Like yeah, I get it, people have preferences and shit but you’d never hear anyone say something like “I don’t want to be friends with [Race]” because that’s unacceptably racist.
bUt PeOpLe ArE aLlOwEd To HaVe PrEfErEnCeS!!!
The funniest version of this is the white guy who defends pursuing only Asian women as a preference but complains that it’s racist when they refuse to date him.
I’ve known more than one of these.
On the flip side there are lots of Asian and Asian American women with internalized racism that refuse to date Asian guys and themselves have white fever (to mirror the yellow fever that many white guys have). It’s just fucked all around.
As someone born on the “wrong side” of
I’m glad I have never set foot in the west (and never will). Yeah west-worshipping nonwestern libs exist but I’ve personally never met one and most people in my community are comfortable in their own skin. I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a minority in the west.I grew up in an area that was like a third to half Asian or so.
TV shows and the internet kept referencing this stereotype that “Asian people are shy”
I was always like, shy?? What the fuck are they talking about? Some of the least shy people I know.
Then I moved to a majority white area and I was like oh, oh yeah Asians actually are often literally shy here because they’re alienated by white people being fucking weird and racist assholes
I’ve been out of the dating game for a few years now, but when I was on dating sites and tinder, there were waaaaay too many Asian/Indian women with “No Asians, No Indians” right in the profile.
Hope it’s better now.
Even worse, I’ve seen many people state “no rice, no spice.”
I mean my room mate is Desi, and she very much avoids dating men specifically of her cultural background owing to the traditional cultural views on proper womanhood, feminism, and queerness. I’m sure if a super progressive guy of her culture came around she’d consider dating him, but I don’t fault her for having a heuristic to avoid ending up in another abusive relationship.
On the one hand, I’m not in a place where I can question the lived experience of your roommate. On the other hand, a sexist-racist heuristic is still sexist and/or racist.
If I, as a Chinese dude, stated publicly that I don’t want to date Chinese women because they’re hyper materialistic and status seeking (not a belief I hold irl), I would hope that people would speak up and tell me that that’s a fucked up thing to say.
Or, to remove the gender and patriarchy angle from it, if I got mugged a few times by people of a certain racial group, it would still be really fucked up of me to claim that I have a heuristic where I avoid people of that race.
Speaking specifically to your last example, I don’t think that’s quite the same, as it would imply mugging is held up as an ideal social standard to adhere to in that certain racial group, which is doubtlessly untrue. In her particular case, there are social standards of manhood and a woman’s proper place that her ethnoreligious group promulgates, and she’s very clear she wouldn’t date anyone that adheres to those views, much like she wouldn’t date a republican for the very same reason. That’s going to, in effect, result in her not being willing to date a large portion of that group.
Like would it be racists or discriminatory (with all of negative connotation entailed) for an ex-Amish person to not want to deal with dating other people of Amish background?
That’s why she dates men from the culture that invented lobotomies specifically for their wives ofc.
She mostly dates women now, for what that’s worth.
The passport thing was no longer the case when I went there in 2016ish. It used to be you could go about 15 miles into Mexico without a passport but when I last went in 2016, you had to have one just to cross in to Mexico, and they were inspecting the heck out of it, and visa was required to go more than a certain distance or stay. A lot of poor Americans live south of the border in San Diego area because it’s all they can afford. Mexico was pissed at Trump and changed the rules.
I like your last point on the tax thing, that’s so BS the way that money isn’t equal per student. It should be state wide equal property tax and state-wide equal per student.
Ive walked into Mexico from San Diego without a passport in the last couple years, you can slip the guard a $20 to go without passport lol.
I haven’t left my country in so long, I’m curious about living near border regions (not aspirationally, though i would like to travel one day). I’m almost on an island within an island
Everyone pets Lalafells without permission.
Joking aside, the way people treat the British as experts because of their accents.
How immigrants from Europe/Americas are “expats” in developing nations. How Euro-American immigrants gentrify the neighborhoods and country they’re in, treating the local populace as NPC servants to their narcissism and wealth.
Eh the expats thing is more about whether you intend to stay long term/make an effort to assimilate.
In my country we get a lot of Eastern European workers who come short-term for a job and then leave, they’re never called anything except “immigrant”.
How immigrants from Europe/Americas are “expats” in developing nations
There is also a
thing to it. Japanese “expats” and (increasingly) South Korean “expats” are also referred to as such.treating the local populace as NPC servants to their narcissism and wealth
when the rightful inevitable pushback/hostility from the local populace happens the
whine about so-called “anti-white racism” from the savage locals, who are clearly inferior to the progressive and enlightened aryan race
Racial “preferences” in dating. No matter how they cut it, it’s racist. Yet people will say “it’s ok to have preferences!”
Yeah sure… I mean back in the day many people “preferred” to not eat with black ppl… jesus fucking christ the racial preferences in dating really ticks me off (especially when you see someone who is otherwise “liberal” and “hates hate” date only white people)
This is so so widespread that I am very curious about it.
One hypothesis I have is that people believe their sexual inclinations are completely separate from social and cultural influence. That the sexual preferences are somehow innate or beyond influence–even though they clearly are heavily influenced.
At the very least fucking keep it to yourself that you don’t date black women or prefer dating east asian women you weirdo agghhh
The very concept of “racial preferences
” is racist calipers shit regardless of contextMost extreme example is the anglo navy employing
servants shenanigansI’m kinda torn on this one. For me, I like and dislike traits that are strongly stereotypical of certain races. So much so that, if I were a less self aware person, I’d just express that preference plainly.
I’m kinda torn on this one. For me, I like and dislike traits that are strongly stereotypical of certain races. So much so that, if I were a less self aware person, I’d just express that preference plainly.
I mean yeah, I get you, sometimes I’d prefer to live in a neighborhood that didn’t have any of those “pesky blacks and hispanics,” but I’d rather not express that plainly either, so I’ll just secretly choose to live in a segregated white neighborhood. I’m REALLY TORN ON THIS ONE…
Holy fuck, thank you for quoting the comment, I came in after it was removed. Fucking ghoul shit right there!
I like and dislike traits that are strongly stereotypical of certain races
Please tell us what these traits are
Future sexpat.
Kys
you should be shot
I remember when lemm.ee used to be the main source of mask-off libs around here, but it seems like dbzer0 has taken its place lately.
You realize that people within each “racial category” can have completely different features.
I can smell your unkempt neckbeard through the screen.
I found out not too long ago that apparently in polite voteblue society it’s still okay to talk about countries being “civilized” where “civilized” essentially means “white”. I am used to chauvinism, but that one really got to me (it was about Russia’s invasion being the first time in a long time that there was a war between two “civilized” countries).
Man, is it so hard for people to understand that different communities in the world are at different stages of development and/or just have different ways of operating than is typical of their own areas?
Society isn’t homogeneous and it’s pretty basic knowledge
I remember that headline during the beginning of the Russian invasion of Ukraine “This is the first war of my lifetime between civilized countries”. So obvious what they meant.
Yugoslavia got its civilized status revoked before it got bombed, apparantly.
I really hated how people talked about “war in Europe!” as something extra horrible and tragic, unlike when it is brown people being at war which doesn’t warrant the same moral outrage.
I remember that headline during the beginning of the Russian invasion of Ukraine “This is the first war of my lifetime between civilized countries”. So obvious what they meant.
I kept hearing it’s the first war in europe since ww2 and this feels like it goes along the same lines but even weirder
People seem to be fine with hating Chinese and Indians where I live
Straya (is also an example of a racist/chauvinist thing that is normalised)
And those same people are expected to hate on themselves because if you can’t take the piss out of yourself (and by extension let others recycle that ‘humour’) then you’re ‘up yourself’.
Australia’s “happy go lucky” “banter friendly” attitude is extremely selective.
apartheid state says what
Yes
Aussies/Anglos: “Hahahah why don’t you go eat dog you chng chng”
Chinese person: “Eh, it’d still taste better than your food.”
Aussies/Anglos: “Wow, that’s uncalled for. That was just banter but this is just racist. How dare you?”
Anglos "Hey we hated on the Italians, then the Greeks, then the Lebanese, then the Vietnamese, then the Japanese, then the Indians, now the Chinese, now we pretend we’re okay with the others so it’s your turn just shut up and take it.
Chinese people “Actually I won’t let you. Fuck daishuguo”
Anglos: “this is offensive to me and the removed, removed and removeds”
Yes this. It sucks here. Xi pls help us.
When I found out Australians call telephone Chinese whispers I was surprised to find an instance of another country being even more casually racist than us
what do you call the thing where you twist the skin on someone’s forearm
Oh I didn’t say they were more casually racist then us, just that one instance. But point taken
no it wasn’t necessarily rhetorical, aus calls it the ‘chinese’ burn
Ahh. Its ‘indian’ burn here. About equivalently shitty, I guess. What do you call it when you ‘rig’ up something to work in a temporary and haphazard way?
bodge job
jerry rig? Or bodge, kludge, but mostly jerry rig
Jerrys the nicer way we do it. The other involves our favorite racial slur
I call it trying my best.
It used to be called Chinese Telephone in North America. I was a kid during the transition.
When I found out Australians call telephone Chinese whispers I was surprised to find an instance of another country being even more casually racist than us
Don’t worry,
is there tooThey call it “arab telephone”
Lol of course they do
One very normalized thing that always infuriates me is the way news headlines report on major disasters. It’s always “Plane crashes in China, TWO AMERICANS DEAD”, “Nuclear explosions blows up populated city, four Britons confirmed missing”, like bitch all the people on that plane and in that city were valuable humans with valuable lives, not just people with the same colour passport as me.
porn
It’s not limited to racial hierarchies and fetishes, either. There are many videos upholding other unjust hierarchies as well, like landlords, cops, business owners, etc.
Fr scrolling some of these titles makes me
referring to northwest eurasia as a “continent”
