I need to find a smart and cute 45 year old lady with a nice house who’s lonely and horny. I can handle the shopping, cooking and entertainment.
If she has any friends in the same position put in a good word for me okay?
For starters, I’m 20 hours late for this post. It’s the two year anniversary of my mother dying of cancer. My brother died of cancer in August. My wife almost died this month. I can’t sleep. I have too much anxiety. I don’t have any face to face friends and I feel too burned out for anyone to want to be my friend.
I’m sorry for your losses but remember life is for the living. Live your life as best you can. That’s why they call it the present.
Lost ones anniversaries are rough. I like to imagine those I’ve lost over time would rather cheer me up than have me remember them through sadness. Still, easier said than done.
(The silver lining about the slower content on lemmy compared to reddit is you can be hours late and still be part of the discussion instead of casting your bottle at sea if you miss the 15 minute window.)
I have no meaning in my life. I go to work and I consume and I don’t connect with anyone or help anyone.
The way you can help me is you can tell me some way I can help you.
🤔 Well, we can address the lack of connection with other people, as it’s the easiest to solve. What are your interests, your passions?
Helping people
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I’m not a religious person but clearly it is giving you support so I’m really glad to hear it.
Do you doodle? I don’t, so I used to put paper in top of comics and copy them. And then hang them on stuff like books. Today I’d do a few in my desk, laptop lid and laptop screen wallpaper. You may want to stick it to your phone? I can see that as great conversation starters with common interest.
I’ve struggled similarly over the years and had my ups and downs. One thing that has helped me is remembering that my feelings are subjective, and not necessarily reflective of reality. My view of the world is often skewed, whether by brain chemistry, various biases, or the influence of others, so I have to seek out what’s actually true in any given situation. It helps me; I hope it will help you, at least a little.
Honestly, in my experience, things get better when I exert control over what I can. I’d tell you to control what you can and go easy with the rest. Try to do better every day, really try consciously, and the struggle itself will be rewarding.
I’m rooting for you. If there is a Creator, and I believe there is, he’s rooting for you, too.
My wife began losing her sight 9 months ago and hasnt been able to work. She also has had vertigo for eight years and is losing most of her weight due to dietary restrictions, as well a a hyper sense of smell that is making her ill all the time. Disability is rejected, and paperwork for insurors trying not to pay is maddening. She has been under the care of a horrible doctor all her life who tells her that only Jesus can heal her. We are working poor in the US so we’re fucked.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
I’m emotionally in a bad place from years of emotional abuse (as a child and an adult). I struggle with ADHD, major depression, and anxiety. I’m unemployed and desperate for a career change. My marriage is in the shitter and I have no friends or family to lean on for anything. I’m all alone…
Hold tight
There’s no easy recipe for any of those things. But try to do things that make you happy. Music is my go to, bit there’s little tiny things everywhere if you take the time to slow and appreciate it.
If you’re into social media like most people (I’m not, besides Lenny) is being a creator instead of consumer. Try finding some joy in making a Tik Tok, and stay away from it’s feed. That’s how I’m trying to teach my son social media, because it’s a creative process instead of addiction.
Trying to care for my partner with PTSD, she’s alcoholic and actively suicidal. Doctor is trying to help but mental health support has a huge waiting list (months and years). Her son, living with us, is retarded, rude, disrespectful, incompetent, and complains constantly about not being able to get a job so he can move out. (I’m not sure that he’s even employable). My ex wife kicked out my son because he and my youngest are arguing all the time and she (ex wife) can’t cope. He started moving in here but doesn’t get along with my partner so he ran away from home (he’s an adult). Now we have a room full of his stuff but don’t know where he is or whether he’s coming back.
I’m still getting over cancer treatment and l I’m so tired.
I’m fine, how are you?
Jeezus. Dude. I mean. Dude. Err. Do you have some place to vent occasionally?
Dealing with my father’s disability, poverty, living under dictatorship… You know, just the usual things. I just want people to be more compassionate, I think.
I feel chained to living a way I do not want to live, and if I were to try to escape, I wouldn’t survive long
I have to make plans for a future I don’t want
A future that does not matter to me
This isn’t what I want
But I have no way out
What future are you being forced to plan for?
Go to college, work for the rest of my life, die
What is it you’d rather do? Not being sarcastic, not being an ass, I genuinely want to know what your passions are.
I want community
I want real relationships and connections
I want to feel human
The way I am forced to live takes it from me
No job, no prospects. I dont even get interviews anymore (been at it a while.) So we are slowly falling further and further behind on everything. I can only hope hiring picks up a lot this year, before we eventually lose our house.
Where to start? 😅
Short version: been sick in various forms for the last 4 years with leg infections, epididymitis, covid and awful fatigue. Finally got an answer this past week of low testosterone. GP is unhelpful - won’t refer me to endocrinology or urology because things will just go back to normal if I lose weight.
Long version? Eh, on request. Typing on my phone is awful.
How can random folk on the Internet help? I’ve no idea! Is anyone knows how to brow beat the NHS GP service into actually caring about their patients is love to know the secrets.
I am sorry you are experiencing this, it is so frustrating! Obligatory “I am not in the US” but what I ended up doing was to list my mom’s address as if I was still living there so I could access a different clinic with different doctors since the one I was stuck with gave me similar advice as yours. Not perfect but it kind of helped.
Ah sadly due to the above happening I’ve been living at home with my folks so we’re all registered at the same surgery. Good idea though!
Tip of the iceberg: I’m a carer for an elderly parent, the other one is terminally ill and long estranged, my sibling has his own (mental-) health issues, and despite being well educated I am terminally unemployed with a CV that’s more gap than employment. I am past 40. In many ways it is too late for me to get my life on track. I power on, but I gave up a long time ago, it hurts less than having dreams. My current pension plan is a rope. Money would make my life better, but there are people who are far more deserving.
What could you do? Vote for progressive parties, politicians that are in favour of affordable healthcare, decent social security, social housing and perhaps even UBI.
Don’t do this for some random stranger on the internet. Do this for yourself.
There’s this myth that the homeless are all lazy, mentally ill or drug addicts. That the unfortunate deserve their misfortune. That you reap what you sow. It’s a comforting lie. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Life is not fair. You can do your best and still lose.
The reality is that plenty of homeless people have (hard science) degrees, are highly intelligent, worked really hard only to find their pension had been stolen from them, were otherwise ripped off, or got ill and couldn’t afford the bills. This could happen to you. Statistically, it is likely that this will happen to someone reading this.
Vote accordingly and realise that those less fortunate than you, could be you 6 months from now, through no fault of your own or that a stupid mistake could leave you in the gutter.
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Every day I go to work, come gome, sleep, etc. That’s not the issue. The issue is that every day, I fear for my kids and family. I sit and wonder what of their future? Pollution and climate change is in our face and no government entity is doing a thing about it. No corporation is budging. It was over 50F in January where it should be below zero. Should I get a survival kit? Would it help? Do I need something to grab and go? How can I teach my kids survival skills in the wild when I have no experience myself? Where will we go? How will we get clean water and food when the system shuts down? What will we eat when we are rationing fresh water and the crops are dying due to heat and sun baking?
I think people should worry about all those things, but I also think if you read the media it’s like there will be mass deaths everywhere within 5 years which is far from truth.
We as a civilization shouldn’t sit and do nothing for serious matters that will happen beyond ones lifetime.
- I have no friends or family.
- I’m only avoiding suicide cos I’ve failed for 20yrs so proving I’m shit at it.
- My last attempt resulted in a nightmare hospital stay where I got barely any fucking care.
- I’m on probation for a crime I don’t remember committing while psychotic on meth.
- Unemployed
- Polydrug addiction cos life is so shit but I have to remain sober.
Who the hell downvoted you and why?
