Last night she was coughing in a manner my asleep brain read as “gross”, so unconsciously noped the fuck out of there and slept on the sofa. I can’t believe my non-awake brain got it.
She tested positive a few hours ago, so now I just have 7 days to worry. I probably have it, I feel a bit off already.
I know that it’s more than most people, but she was wearing low quality masks, going to a non-safe dentist at peak times, and avoiding the booster. I’ve been nicely pushing her for years, and she brings this shit home. She’s also sorry, and I say it’s fine because I want her to feel better and recover, but secretly I’m fucking raging.
Sorry to rant. Better on Hexbear than out loud.
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Anger is a valid response.
Good luck, hopefully you noped out fast enough.Individual responsibility is not how virus transmission during a global pandemic works. If you live in
you are in the middle of the second-highest spike in COVID transmission ever. Everybody is getting this shit. She literally cannot wear a mask while having her mouth worked on, and the intersection of dentists who take your insurance, follow your personal COVID rules exactly, and have an appointment when you need it is vanishingly small. Be mad at Fauci, Trump, Biden, Pfizer, and your workplaces, not your girlfriend.Frustration and aggravation are totally normal and acceptable, and it’s good and respectful to your partner to vent here to us instead of to her directly. But I really don’t think you have much of a leg to stand on for sustained indignation. You are one, possibly two, in a wave of millions of cases. This is just what’s happening. Chances are you will both be OK.
Rooting for the both of you.
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Whether it’s valid or not, the anger is happening, which is good to recognize and validate. But I think it’s a worthwhile exercise to explore the root of that anger and the response to it.
I don’t think it’s rational to be angry at one’s partner for getting sick during an enormous surge of an incredibly contagious disease even while taking more precautionary measures against getting sick than maybe 95% of the population.
I am also willing to bet that she knows full well that the OP has been nudging her about COVID stuff beyond what she’s already been doing (which already sounds cautious), and feels guilty about it. This probably goes on top of the guilt and shame of potentially exposing your loved one to a serious and highly communicable disease.
I think the person in the situation who needs compassion and care is the person who currently definitely has COVID. For the OP, it’s reasonable to be afraid of getting sick and for that fear to manifest as anger. But I do not think it is fair to guilt or shame one’s partner as a vector of disease when she probably already physically, mentally, and emotionally feels like shit.
It sounds like the OP agrees with this by saying “Better on Hexbear than out loud,” which I 100% agree with. But if OP was my friend telling me this over the phone, this is what I’d tell him, not to shame him for feeling anger, but to help identify its source as fear for his and his partner’s wellbeing and handle it in a healthy and functional way that supports his partner in her time of need.
OP we are here for you to help u be there for her
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I think it’s okay to be upset initially, but you shouldn’t blame your partner.
It’s been 4 years and you didn’t get it until now, that’s much much longer than the majority of people. Even wearing high quality masks and getting boosters and being careful my wife caught it.
You can do everything right, but it’s a game of probabilities. 99% effective procedures over a long enough period will still fail.
It’s more mild now than ever, it spreads easier now than ever, and it sounds like you’ve been getting your boosters so you’ve probably got decent immunity.
If you’re already feeling gross then you probably got it around the same time as her and your body just has a different time to showing symptoms than hers. Or it could be psychosomatic and you’re so worried about symptoms that you’re convincing yourself you have them.
And even though she has it, there’s still a chance you can mask indoors and keep separate and not get it.
It’s more mild now than ever
This is actually not true, the most recent variants are akin to the one from 2020
this is true, pirola is more severe than omicron
Highly mutated COVID variant BA.2.86—close ancestor of globally dominant “Pirola” JN.1—may lead to more severe disease than other Omicron variants, according to two new studies published Monday in the journal Cell.
In one study, researchers from Ohio State University performed a variety of experiments using a BA.2.86 pseudovirus—a lab-created version that isn’t infectious. They found that BA.2.86 can fuse to human cells more efficiently and infect cells that line the lower lung—traits that may make it more similar to initial, pre-Omicron strains that were more deadly.
In the other study, researchers in Germany and France came to the same conclusion. “BA.2.86 has regained a trait characteristic of early SARS-CoV-2 lineages: robust lung cell entry,” the authors wrote. The variant “might constitute an elevated health threat as compared to previous Omicron sublineages,” they added.
what a garbage fucking thread. OP makes a vent post and then random idiots march in to scold OP for venting about his real feelings and to minimize COVID.
Does she get to be pissed off at you if you bring it home next time? It’s your partner, shit happens, suck it up and go make her a honey lemon tea or something.
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Absolutely deranged.
I already have symptoms, you absolute knob
blaming her for going to a popular dentist
@[email protected] you stand accused of being a dental elitist, cruelly judging those who frequent popular dentists. How do you plead?Obviously the problem isn’t the popularity of the dentist, the problem is the dentist not having any precautions in place and the appointment being in the middle of a large wave of infections.
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OP wasn’t upset that they went to a dentist. From the post:
, going to a non-safe dentist at peak times,
You can find COVID-conscious dentists to go to, who wear N-95s + face shields, require that patients in the waiting room wear masks, and run air purifiers that use HEPA filters. Some (incomplete) sites that track information like this:
- https://covidsafeproviders.com/category/covid-safe-dental-dentists/
- https://www.covidsafedentists.ca/
- https://www.covidmeetups.com/en/directory/dentists/US
at peak times
If a COVID-safe dentist is not an option, they could have gone to their dentist at a lower-risk time, like first thing in the morning.
You can vent here all you want. It’s fine.
And yeah, I’m annoyed that my own family doesn’t really take it seriously.
I’m probably getting what I think may be my sixth booster shot next month.
Open the windows at least a crack, turn on a fan and an air purifier, set the humidity to 40%, and have her isolate in a bedroom. Viral load is a big deal.
You’ve posted about you’ve been extra careful partly for her sake, because you love her so much. Beyond that… go go gadget teacher’s immune system?!?
Not gonna lie, if it was me I would be proper pissed off. Especially when you’ve been warning her for years
Very telling that most of the people bashing OP are new here and probably aren’t aware of c/covid and the culture this site has about taking COVID seriously. OP’s one hundred percent justified, people bashing him are cowards.
So you’re making a big deal about something because you are assuming that you have it, but you have absolutely no idea. So you’re angry at something you made up in your own head? Makes a lot of sense if you ask me. Do you know how many people you come in contact with every day that have covet and you just don’t know about it. It’s endemic at this point. Sounds like you’re blaming your girlfriend for something that’s mostly out of her control. Plus, if you’re vaccinated then I wouldn’t worry too much.
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Start boosting your fluids and make sure you’re getting your electrolytes. If coughing irritates the throat make some honey lemon tea. If you start sweating from a fever lay down on a towel and change it out when it gets wet - dont let cold wet blankets make you feel worse. Sipping warm broth is a nice savory alternative to sweet drinks to stay hydrated and put something warm and soothing in your stomach. If coughing causes muscle discomfort in your chest do some slow breathing exercises and stretches to keep your muscles limber and relaxed. You might find pairing that with a hot water bottle or heating pad to be even more effective. Best of luck. And hey, venting is okay, it’s a good way to get out some of the bad vibes, mental health is good for your physical recovery too.
I gotta ask out of curiosity, is this a vent in the sense that you are angry and are looking for a healthier outlet than taking it out on your partner or are you looking for validation here?
inlaw gave the baby covid a few months ago because she just had to go to her no-mask boomer music fest with her boomer friend and then come home drunk and immunocompromised and kiss the baby a thousand times. I got covid too but I was way more pissed about the baby.
