Hang out. Chat. Talk about what’s going on. Have fun :3

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]OPM
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    91 year ago

    *sigh* Guy I became friends with is well on his way on the fascist pipeline. Had a discussion with him tonight and he’s very insistent on “glassing” the US’s enemies among other things. When presented with evidence to the contrary on his talking points, he wished to change topics. Considering he knows he’s talking to a transgirl, I can only imagine that he’s on the pipeline rather than at the final stop. Not sure if I want to bother continuing to agitate or just drop it altogether. :\

    • Wake [she/her, they/them]M
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      81 year ago

      I actually have a fair amount of experience with this. I’ve talked a few people off the pipeline in the past. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and lost some friends along the way, but I like to think I’m pretty good at it now. A few of biggest tips I can give are:

      1. Don’t push too hard. This isn’t a debate, and debate is for dweebs. This is a dialogue between friends. Keep it light, but persistent. You are teaching him to think critically, not what to think.

      2. Be prepared for burnout and pushback. If you push too hard they will shut down. It will turn into a debate, at which point they are no longer receptive to your attempts. If it happens, drop the subject and move on to something light. Give them time to think. This is more about planting seeds than it is about harvesting results.

      3. Learn the Socratic method. It’s a powerful tool for this kind of stuff.

      4. Be prepared to land on and argue from softer opinions than what you actually believe. Be prepared to fight dirty. You don’t have to be 100% in good faith all the time. The metaphor I use for this is that critical thought is like a building you’re constructing with them. you’ve already climbed the stairs and know what the roof looks like. Even if you really want them to climb them with you, you’re going to have to stop on lower floors. And you need to be ok with that. Small steps win the race here.

      And above all else, your safety is top priority. If things go south, bail. You don’t need to put yourself into danger.

      • SnowySkyes [she/her]OPM
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        91 year ago

        I’m certainly going to try. Just makes me nervous since this guy lives fairly close to me. Never really attempted to pull someone away from the fascist pipeline before, so this’ll be a journey for me. Hopefully not a bad one.

  • Moss [they/them]
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    201 year ago

    Just tried to take a photo of myself but got really upset because I hate the way I look

  • bubbalu [they/them]
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    81 year ago

    I split up with my boyfriend today. It hasn’t hit me yet, but I’m probably going to be really sad later.

  • Wake [she/her, they/them]M
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    151 year ago

    Therapy went really well today. We talked about a bunch of good stuff. But they suggested to me that I come to our next meeting presenting fem. scared

  • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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    1 year ago

    That voice group meeting was useful, also got a book suggestion from a coworker who moonlights as a voice actor, though it took him some convincing since he thinks sounding feminine in retail makes customers less mad or some silly shit. Naw, they were mad long before they got to the line.

    Otherwise not doing so well, this sinus infection is kicking my ass and draining me, I know its related to that never ending dental abscess, it just took until this month to finally get scheduled to be seen by a somewhat affordable dentist, though still ouch. I hope when I finally get seen that’s the resolution of it, it doesn’t come back to pester.

  • SnowySkyes [she/her]OPM
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    91 year ago

    I hate colds. They’re the worst. Woke up feeling like crap. About 2 days of symptoms behind my wife, so I know this won’t be a quick one.

    Also, I’m 4 weeks away from my bottom surgery. You can tell I’m excited because my dreams are just constantly filled with dreams of that day. These next 4 weeks are going to draaaaag.

  • Ho_Chi_Chungus [she/her]
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    1 year ago

    de-perception There, you see it. Sticking out of the crowd. Monster Energy, pink can, Ultra Strawberry Dream flavor.

    de-electrochemistry It’s the most trans girl energy drink you can imagine. You need one, now. Two, actually

    de-endurance It’s been a long day. The caffeine should be a fitting boost to finish it

    de-encyclopedia [ENCYCLOPEDIA: EASY] SUCCESS- Standing before you on this shelf are scores of energy drinks, none of which will have any effect on your hormone levels whatsoever. Even if the can is especially pink

    de-electrochemistry Don’t listen to Poindexter, this is the trans femme drink on the shelf, and it’s that way for a good reason

    1. Guess I should get one
    2. What about the other flavors? Is guava not trans girl enough for me?
    3. Discard thought
  • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]
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    131 year ago

    I’d been putting off any removal of my body hair because I can’t really afford any of the good options (basically I have a razor and an electric razor) and like without doing it I could imagine it being better than I knew it would be.

    I’ve finally shaved everything neck down and it is somewhat better than I hoped. I am so much happier with how I look this way, and it feels better. But also, my skin is so pale and my hair so dark I can like still see all my hair follicles sitting there, which is incredibly depressing. I can’t make the hair actually disappear. And now, just one day later, I can feel stubble everywhere. The thought of having to do all that shaving multiple times a week is so depressing.

    Hopefully HRT will do something here once I’ve been on it longer

    • queermunist she/her
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      1 year ago

      Consider an epilator. Not great for face or pubes (too irritating I find), but for legs/arms/pits/chest/stomach it works wonders. Takes way longer for pricklies to show up, on a level similar to waxing. It’ll hurt till you get used to it, though.

      • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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        1 year ago

        I haven’t committed to large swathes of hair yet, mostly just patches to test, but in my experience waxing was a ton less painful during those patches. Epilating felt like someone was purposely torturing me. I’ve heard it gets less painful after the first couple times you pull out the hair by it’s roots, but for me at least waxing seems way easier.

      • ilyenkov [she/her, they/them]
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        41 year ago

        I should do that. I haven’t cuz I’ve heard from others it’s really only good for legs and you shouldn’t use it on the chest and back and stuff. But it works well for you for that?

    • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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      1 year ago

      If you can get a Braun IPL those work absolute WONDERS on body hair. Literally my hair is so thin and soft now and I don’t even see follicles. My leg hair used to be prickly at like, idk. 12 hours. Now it basically is completely clear for a week t hen starts growing back just from shaving

      • grym [she/her, comrade/them]
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        21 year ago

        Hey i’m looking into this, your comment made me start searching for at-home IPL stuff and i’ve seen few different ones recommended like the Philips Lumea Prestige or Smoothskin Pure Fit, as well as a Braun Silk Expert Pro 5, etc. There’s also tons of different “models” for the Braun which only seem to change what heads are included but the price varies from like 300 to 500$ so that’s a bit wild.

        What specific model do you have and any particular reason you chose this one? Heard good things about other models. I’m ready to save and buy a very expensive one if it’s worth it in the long-term !

        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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          41 year ago

          I have the Braun ipl 5. I got it on sale for around 350 after tax and it has worked absolute wonders on me. Very much money well spent. My nipple hair is gone, my happy trail is mostly gone (still working on it). I thinkthe biggest thing is that I don’t get ingrown hairs on my legs anymore. Ingrowns used to be nightmarish and extremely painful and after weeks and weeks of treatment they are very few and far between (might get 2 or 3 when shaving now).

          I will admit I’m now waxing my legs though because the hair got so soft and thin that it takes lkme 2 weeks to really noticeably grow out, and the IPL is giving diminishing returns.

        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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          31 year ago

          Oh sorry didn’t answer your questions.

          I picked the Braun 5 (with insurance for 3 years) because of a few reasons:

          1. Based on my research I saw the most evidence that this one would actually do the job. There are a lot of IPL’s out there that are cheaper and have a lower power rating that don’t do the job. I didn’t want to waste my time.

          2. It has the feature where you can just hold down the button and it flashes automatically.

          3. It was on sale for 300 and then 350 with insurance and tax. I do recommend the insurance because I saw people say that this thing can break? Idk I’ve had no problems at 6 months.

          4. I’ve heard good things about the lumiq but it was more expensive at the time

        • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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          31 year ago

          Sorry for ANOTHER response here. But if you can return within a month… here’s what I would do. Get something like the nood, a bit cheaper but with decent reviews. Try it. You should see some results within a month, if you don’t then return it

  • morte [she/her]
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    91 year ago

    I got in a fight with my dad and it fucking sucks. He sent me a link to an article written by a trans woman who repeated all of the gender critical talking points, just pure reactionary garbage. The writer is a fucking comprador letting people point to her and say “well this trans person says not to get surgery!” If I bring surgery up at all they always tell me to look at sources about regretting it. Its so fucking painful for me to try to get them to stop repeating reactionary talking points and actually listen to me and respect my decision. I just… it’s so hard to keep doing this. I love them and all but theyve said really horrible stuff to me. Theyve toned it down a bit but they just dont understand how much their approval matters to me. I can tell they think i can be “cured” somehow, that I just need to figure out “why” i’m trans and just need to “love myself”. It sucks so fucking much. I hate this.

    • Cromalin [she/her]M
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      31 year ago

      yeah, the first time that happened for me it hit like a truck. i’ve mostly gotten used to it but sometimes i still get giddy when i hear it a bunch, gender euphoria is very real

  • Jenniferrr [she/her, comrade/them]
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    181 year ago

    I kinda massively slowed down on taking selfies? Idk I’ve been super stressed over the last 2 weeks honestly. Also my dysphoria is significantly lower and I’m kinda starting to question if I’m even trans? That being said I basically dress fem as much as possible and am on estrogen and my T is pretty suppressed… all things that would reduce my dysphoria so maybe it’s working?

    • milistanaccount09 [she/her]
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      101 year ago

      yeah I mean dysphoria dropping is a symptom of just being more comfortable in your own body. I had a huge selfie spree too that’s leveled off at this point