For me, it was learning English. Although I do make a few mistakes here and there, I’m mostly perfect on it.
The amount of resources you have access to dramatically increases when you know a universal language. I say dramatically because it made me realize how much my native language lacks when it comes to certain topics. The most obvious one to me was tech and computers. Everybody knows how to use Windows but there are very few resources about stuff beyond Windows. It’s actually sad. [insert sad face here]
I hate that you are right because English is such a janky ass language.
And don’t worry too much on mistakes since native speakers suck at english too.
No we aren’t
Don’t worry Aussies get a free pass for being pretty damn cool.
Nah yeah you heard boys, get the shrimp on the barbie oi oi oi
Just teasing my neighbour, I’m also Aussie. Though not by birth.
Going to therapy.
I found out the reason I could’t sleep anymore was deeper than just being stressed out during a particular time frame of my life, but it was the last ring of a chain of bad (but apparently “normal”) decisions that started a long time ago.I’d say so far, my best decision has been saying “ok” when an old coworker offered me an interview at a new job.
OP, do you mind if I ask what your native language is?
I apologize for the late reply. I was really busy these few days.
OP, do you mind if I ask what your native language is?
Well I do not mind. It’s Turkish.
At the risk of repeating what others have posted, getting together with my wife. She’s smart, financially responsible, and we influence each other in positive ways. We’ve been so much more capable as a team than either of us was separately.
It’s kind of weird that English became a universal language. There must have been better choices.
Apparently not, or those would’ve become the universal.
History is what caused it. Though it’s pretty fascinating that in Shakespeare’s time, English (in England) was considered the commoner’s tongue, while the upper classes spoke French.
This is part of Shakespeare’s legacy (he wrote and performed in English) , and also shows why the early documents in America are worded the way they are. No American says “four score and 20 years”, that’s from French.
No American says “four score and 20 years”,
My whole life has been a lie.
I mean the options at the time were English, French and maybe Spanish with Dutch being a distant 4th so… Not really? Nowadays your options are English or Mandarin.
French and Spanish would have been better.
I don’t speak Spanish but I do speak French and I disagree.
Leaving Facebook, and Reddit, and
TwitterX, and Instagram, and… well, quite literally everything except YouTube.Joining the electrical union. I’m a convicted felon. The union gave me a future.
Marrying my wife.
I ended up being a much better person because of it.
Moving to Ireland. Better than the UK in almost every way.
Moving to California. Happened on a whim. Change my life completely because I didn’t fit in my conservative state and would never have achieved actual happiness. Also, continuing therapy.
Probably having kids. Got pregnant at 23, went back to school, slowly, got a much better job when I finished. Do not think I would have done without having the kids, and they have brought so much joy into my life.
But I always knew I wanted kids so not sure that counts.
Wearing a very slightly alternative outfit to the mall in the 1980s may actually have saved my life. I was so alienated at school, for a lot of reasons, and falling in with these slightly older punks who looked after me at shows and just generally got me into that scene really made me feel I had a place - I wouldn’t say it was wholesome by any stretch but without that group I am pretty sure I would have just died, probably from anorexia as a teen. Good and bad came from it but I am very, very happy for that day.
Asked my boss to relocate me to another country 5 years ago. It was a once in a lifetime opportunity and I’m glad I even asked in the first place, because no one else had done it at the time.
Making new year resolutions and actually following through with them until i have succeeded. Each new year, if i completed my previous year goal, i will spend some time thinking about what i could do to best improve my life. i also very carefully word the resolution, so i am not able to ‘cheat’ in any way.
I started off by doing something i saw as a joke. the resolution was to watch every episode and movie of star trek, star wars and dr who. After accomplishing this goal (after 3 years) i realized that making the goal specific is more important. a vague goal that says “do better” in some way is bad. it is better, for me, to aim for a reasonable and achievable goal.
For example, “losing weight” is a bad. if i never stopped losing weight, it would be worse than if i never stopped gaining weight. if i make the goal “get to, then stay within 180-200 pounds”, it is a good goal. (for my height, this is a healthy range).
i started doing this in 2006. since starting i have quit drinking alcohol, quit illegal drugs and reconnected with family members i lost contact with, during the time i was doing the other two.
the most recent goal i made, in 2020, is actually the opposite of my first goal: quit watching tv and movies, quit playing videogames and educate myself as much as possible, until i get a college degree (this is difficult. i have developmental disorders) or buy a house. since they are harder goals than before, i gave myself a deadline of before 2030 begins.
It could help with long term to define sub goals.
For example, about what amount of savings you want to have by which date, or set a date when you want to have a clear concise description of what kind of house and location you are looking for.
At another date you want to be familiar with all the things that involve buying a house, the documents and what not.
By defining sub goals you keep things real and are able to measure your position towards your goal.
It’s a valid strategy for dealing with complex and long term stuff.
Deciding to transition ten years ago
What element were you before you transitioned to fire?
EDIT: I should probably point this out, this is a joke; please don’t speculate or ask about a trans person’s pretransition identity.
I think people on lemmy should start using the “/s” more, even if it’s a reddit legacy
A lot of the federation has been people groomed by reddit dropping all the social progress that site has made over the years.
Asking out my partner. They’re my favorite person. I pity the alternate timeline version of me who didn’t have the guts to make a move. They’re really missing out.
Super cute and wholesome. Glad for you both of you, and cracking up at your username.
Thanks fam! <3
