Opening Instagram instead of Lemmy or Mastodon :(
Pro tip: delete the app on your phone. Needing to put in the website into the browser breaks the misscle memory and you can then easier replace it with something else.
Unfortunately I haven’t yet convinced all my friends to go elsewhere, so I still need it as a communication platform
I’m surviving without it … People just text me… never had one by choice so don’t know about addiction but as with everything is best to just quit it definitely… Make a post saying you deleting your account and change the password to some random characters … The social pressure of failing even to quit Instagram in front of everyone you know will definitely prevent any slip …
makes link to Instagram.com on home screen
Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can’t afford to move.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There’s almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It’s just kind of rotting away. There’s currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk “legally” takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don’t mind stopping a few cars.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
Being angry at the world.
That’s a tough one. Sorry for whatever strated you down that path It can be mentally exhausting and isolating. I hope you figure a way out of it.
Ageing
Only one way to stop and i don’t recommend it.
Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don’t age are dead.
Hating the state of the union.
I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.
My friend has a history of overeating and was about 70 lbs heavier than she is now. She started a keto diet that helped her get to her current weight/size, and now employs a modified diet where she goes keto regularly rather than stay on a strict diet all the time. It seems to work well for her since she can regularly eat whatever she wants between breaks. If you’re interested, I could ask her for online resources. Let me know 🙂👍
Than you kind stranger. I am actually doing modified keto now with no salt. Thanks again!
You’re welcome, and good luck 😊
I started counting calories. And it’s works pretty well. Maybe give it a try.
Yup doing that as well as personal trainer. The cravings and eating out are what kill me. So I started eating out once a month and making my own lower cal pizza.
Have you tried healthy alternatives tho? While i was never overweight, like most people i did enjoy unhealthy food way more than healthy food. But after a lot of trying, i get as excited for roasted Brussel sprouts and asparagus as i was for deep fried bullshit. There is a lot of food that isn’t as boring as it seems and it’s also healthy.
Working.
I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I’m so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I’m working on it, it’s just very difficult
“Perfectionism is shame leaving the body.” - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
My ruminations got so bad after a pretty shitty breakup I had to get help…my journey brought me to medication. Depression and adhd (fluoxetine and vyvanse/adderall) meds brought brain silence that almost made me cry when they started working.
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
That and nearly everyone else has those same thoughts.
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
That might work until you remember that time someone made a fool out of themselves in front of you.
Overthinking everything and being a “perfectionist”. So hard to finish or even start doing anything.
Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.
Being depressed.
Same. I got kicked out of a therapy group for the self-destructive today, fifth time something like this happened based on rumors that made people in charge think “we make a living encouraging people to be satisfied with life, but this woman doesn’t deserve it.”
It sounds like that those therapy groups suck, honestly.
I’ve never tried groups, but I found a really amazing therapist so they exist, hope you find one who helps you.
Before that stroke of luck, I found a few books that helped me a lot with self sabotaging and other issues. If you’re interested, I could share.
Best of luck out there.
Thanks. People can’t open up these days (or even talk about it) it seems.
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It’s basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don’t just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
Watched my gramma slip into “i can’t change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons” from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you’d have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was “an upgrade”
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Me: I wish I could stop paying taxes. Genie: poof Wish granted! Me: Woah…I don’t feel so good! Genie: It’s a fatal heart attack.
Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.
