What’re you into, what’re you looking forward to, what’re you happy about?

Please

I am feeling terribly self-harmy in advance of my birthday next week

I got to the point of making a pros and cons chart

give me something to be vicariously happy about or something to look forward to, please

  • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]
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    811 months ago

    I’ve been getting back into making radio control models which has finally helped me really look forward to doing things. It’s the first time I’ve been able to focus on something and just think without my mind churning. I might’ve found a model flying club that will accept me (I’m openly and very obviously trans) but even if not I’ve already found someone who wants to fly with me.

    I’ve also reconnected with someone I knew from high school and I think we might become friends. I’m looking forward to hearing from her more.

    But one big event I’m looking forward to is you posting here after your birthday that you made it.

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      211 months ago

      Care-Comrade

      thank you ❤️❤️❤️

      was reading your comment getting more envious by the sentence, then got to that last one and 😭❤️ I am trying very, very hard.

      I love what you’re doing, and I’m putting it on my internal vision board. I would like to find a local group for one of my hobbies to try to make friends, and reconnecting with someone I used to know might be nice.

      What kind of models do you make? You mentioned flying, so airplanes maybe, but is there a particular kind you’re super into?

      • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]
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        211 months ago

        I haven’t actually scratch built a model in a long time. Last one was an airplane that was really fun to fly! I challenged myself to build it as light weight as I could so it flew extremely slowly. I could just about walk behind it! It looked kinda like this: Except not as light and covered in tissue paper instead of that thin plastic film. These days I’ve mostly been flying and fixing/modifying rc planes that I bought mostly complete. But they’re made of molded foam because it’s a very light and low-labor way of making complex shapes. But I really want to make a plane from scratch soon, except instead of foam I want to make it out of wood (mostly balsa since it’s super light). I might try to build one that can carry my camera to do more aerial photography!

        I’ve also built an rc car from a kit which I had a lot of fun doing, and I have my eyes on another one I want to build! But I want to start building the plane first cause that’s been a long time coming of imagining it.

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          211 months ago

          That model is beautiful! What color paper do you use on yours?

          I can’t imagine the patience and dexterity it takes to get good at something like that! 🤩 It’s crazy impressive.

  • SpiderFarmer [he/him]
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    611 months ago

    I got my cat. He’s a fluffy little guy. In addition my luck has turned around a bit and I’ve had the time for miniatures and praxis. I wish you well. I’ve been at the point of making those lists and far worse than that. Whether people online or in meatspace, it’s possible to connect with folks and feel better within the year.

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      211 months ago

      What’s your favorite thing about your cat? What kind of miniatures do you make?

      I appreciate your solidarity and compassion very much ❤️ thank you

      Care-Comrade

      • SpiderFarmer [he/him]
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        211 months ago

        It’s a blessing and a curse, but my cat loves drinking from the bathroom sink and tub. At this point he has me trained to turn it on for him. As for miniatures, I am currently working on Malifaux. It’s more budget friendly than Warhammer at this point and it’s a skirmish style, making for games that don’t take 2 hours. I also never intend to go back to playing Warhammer given how they temporarily got rid of Tomb Kings. That Mummy/Skeleton army is super rad and honestly fun to play if you want to tackle people with chariots all day. Hope you’re doing better today. Every bit counts, even the emotionally drained days that follow the roughest of times.

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          211 months ago

          I’m doing better, and the kindness and conversation has been hugely helpful. Thank you very much for taking the time. cuddle

          My childhood cat was a sink drinker, too! 😻 and I also was trained to turn it on for him. His favorite way to drink was to lounge on the side of the sink like a Roman senator on his dinner couch, and he would lazily reach out his paw to catch drops and then lick them off. 🙄😂 just an absolute lush

          That reminds me that this guy likes to eat that way 😂

          He sprawls out on his side next to the food bowl and grabs handfuls to eat, which makes a mess he is far too important to clean up. 🤴

          He seems to know that he should be embarrassed because he will not let me get a picture of it happening, he gets up and huffs off every time. 😂 Who wouldn’t, right? Who wants dinner paparazzi??

          Thank you again meow-hug I appreciate this very much!

  • kristina [she/her]
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    Helped a ton of trans people this week with resources, love seeing the relief in people’s eyes when I help them out

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      311 months ago

      just the mental image of your connection with those people in that moment is deeply inspiring and beautiful, I love that feeling of having actually helped ❤️

      thank you, I needed this

      cuddle Care-Comrade

      • kristina [she/her]
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        311 months ago

        Its important to stick around so you can help others out! Also helps when you’re feeling bad to remember the good things you’ve done

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          311 months ago

          remember the good things you’ve done

          This is a really good idea but hard for me because I see all the flaws in everything I’ve done. Maybe I should get someone to help me with it and bonk me on the head with a pillow every time I try to nitpick. 😂❤️

          Thank you. meow-hug You are awesome, and I appreciate your kindness and care very much.

  • Thallo [she/her]
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    I just got my first laser hair removal yesterday. It didn’t really hurt at all tbh except a bit around the lip.

    Excited. In half a year, I should be presenting way differently.

    It’s gonna be really interesting when my friends see because I used to be famous for my impressive beard. Wanna see how long I can go hairless while saying something like, “oh yeah, I just got really good at shaving”

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      111 months ago

      Wanna see how long I can go hairless while saying something like, “oh yeah, I just got really good at shaving”

      !! 😂 I LOVE THIS!!

      These are my favorite pranks!!! Totally harmless and deeply silly. ❤️ Thank you!!

      Care-Comrade

      My very tall husband gets comments about his height a lot, from strangers sure, but most often from friends and relatives he’s known decades – seriously, my fucking family brings it up almost every time they lay eyes on him and so do many of our friends – and it makes him feel like a freak. We decided to take the power back by lying to them about his height.

      Wow, Husbandname, you’re TALL! How tall are you now?

      (like he’s still growing 🙄)

      “He’s only 6’2”! You must be shorter than you think," and the more they press for his actual height, the lower the number gets. 😂 He is not the pranking type, and the confusion this creates is hilarious.

      Do you have any other silly pranks going?

      • Thallo [she/her]
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        211 months ago

        Hah, I guess I don’t consider them pranks, but I like to do video calls with my friends I’m not officially out to while wearing full make up just to see if anyone says anything

        They never do. Although, they’ve seen me in dresses and shit lol

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          111 months ago

          Do you have any theories about why it’s never come up? And is it now one of those situations where it’s been too long and nobody can ask now? Those are funny in their own way

          • Thallo [she/her]
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            211 months ago

            Yeah, it’s probably been too long. Tbh, I think they just support me regardless so they aren’t hung up on the details lol

  • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
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    411 months ago

    Kitty next door was missing for 2 weeks and I saw them in the window today! I think they got even chomkier!

  • asg101 [none/use name, comrade/them]
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    911 months ago

    I live in a cannabis post-prohibition country, so I can grow and use my medicine without fear of being kidnapped, thrown in a cage, and tortured to death like back in the old country (Imperial Core). I hope you are able to light up and celebrate if you are so inclined.

    Also, there is so much interesting shit to watch happening, you don’t want to miss out!

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      211 months ago

      thank you ❤️

      Care-Comrade

      I’ve got a medical card, and it definitely helps with my PTSD and anxiety.

      I was honestly hoping Genocide Joe would die or drop out before my birthday to give me some extremely hot goss and drama to live for, but he’s only got a few days left. I’m trying to stick it out, though, because it would be an objective shame for him and fucking heartless Dick Cheney to outlive me.

      Comrade Stroke, Friend Aneurysm, time’s a-ticking, please show up to Joe’s party, and stop by the Cheney residence on your way ✨🙏✨

      • asg101 [none/use name, comrade/them]
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        211 months ago

        You are quite welcome, and I agree being outlived by Genocide Joe and 9/11 Architect Cheney would be a cruel cosmic joke to be sure. Hang in there, good things DO happen occasionally, and our side needs all the comrades we can get.

  • plinky [he/him]
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    1211 months ago

    i got mint, so i either will make cookies with ginger and min or try it with chili pepper (for science). Also its great in tea quagsire-pog. But my genius will have to wait till the weekend angry-hex

        • magi [null/void]
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          511 months ago

          Mhm, mint is very versatile. Also grows easily of you plant it by itself. It’s also nice if used sparingly with rice also, coconut & mint rice with a hot curry for example meow-melt

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      411 months ago

      I’ve had mint tea and mint chocolate cookies, but ginger and mint cookies?! Maybe with chili pepper?? 🤯 I would love to know more. What texture are you going for? Are you working from a recipe or inspired genius?

      xi-cooking

      Thank you for telling me about your intriguing cookie project ❤️ would you please post about them when you make them this weekend?

      Care-Comrade

      • plinky [he/him]
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        511 months ago

        Oh, no , chili with mint is a separate thingie, I just wanted to test how hot and cold food feels together.

        Figure chili would be too weird in a cookie. Although black pepper might work curious-sickle

        I’ll keep you updated rat-salute

        Nah usual ginger cookies, but because I have a small oven, I have to bake in 3 goes, so I try some stuff with them

          • plinky [he/him]
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            211 months ago

            Cookie report card:

            Black pepper works, surprisingly nicely actually, feels like different heat than ginger. (A-)

            Mint - kinda meh, cooling effect isn’t felt. Althoug smell of mint is felt in breath/roof of mouth, dunno how to describe it, like after minty candy or toothpaste. Maybe i should dump a whole load of it, dunno. But very complicated taste. Maybe if i lost clove and got fresh leafs (or very strong ones) it could work. thonk (B, needs some work, likely complicated balance to find)

            • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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              311 months ago

              Have you created a whole new genre of cookie here?? I’ve never heard of a pepper cookie, but it sounds awesome and I’d totally try one.

              🤩 I’m impressed with your ingenuity! I would never have thought of trying that.

              • plinky [he/him]
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                311 months ago

                I don’t think so, in some recipes i’ve seen mentions of ginger cookies with pepper soviet-hmm

                but it makes sense, ginger has some hotness, different from other hot thingies. Peppermint does as well, so its like shy two spicy things, but differently spicy meow-fiesta

  • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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    711 months ago

    I have a dog with me who makes impressively loud snorts for his size (and without much trouble breathing, he’s just really loud).

    Talking to a friend, I remembered there’s a setting on my keyboard that blatantly doesn’t work but, because of that, it’s probably the most interesting way to play it if you’re fine with sacrificing dynamics. I’m going to start using it again, I don’t know why I stopped.

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      411 months ago

      I love the thought of your little pupper piglet very much 🥰

      It took me longer than I want to admit to figure out that you meant a musical keyboard and not a special gaming keyboard 🤦😂 What kind of music do you make with it? What’s wrong with the setting and how does that make make it more interesting?

      Care-Comrade

      thank you ❤️

      • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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        211 months ago

        I probably should have specified what kind.

        Mostly I do classical because I am just learning. By coincidence of their form, the jazz pieces I know how to play don’t sound as interesting with it.

        The specific problem is that it’s somehow not calibrated to handle polyphony correctly, so when you have just one note, it comes out fine, but when you have multiple they sort of crowd each other and it creates distortion, with more notes being more distorted. Because of that, when a song has, to use the example that has the best effect so far, a monophonic melody but then the accompanying notes vary in number, the melody gets more and less distorted and it adds a new dimension to the song. With the songs I play, which tend to be mildly positive, it tends to sound very somber in an almost mocking way, partly because the soundfont is that of an organ to start with.

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          111 months ago

          Woah!!! That sounds really cool! I bet that’s a lot of fun to mess around with. Do you want to play with other people or are you happier jamming alone?

          • GarbageShoot [he/him]
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            211 months ago

            Well, I think it would be a lot more fun playing with other people, but I’m garbage at music so the only time I got to play with other people was for a class in college, which I quite enjoyed.

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              211 months ago

              I’m confident that your enthusiasm for playing music and love of it will get you to that skill level before you know it. ❤️ I hope to someday see you post how fucking awesome your first jam sesh with some musician friends went and how you’re thinking about starting a band.

              I’m cheering for you! meow-bounce I’m pretty sure you’re gonna be so much better than you expect. 😊

  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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    711 months ago

    I just finished a minecraft farm. It’s a mob farm, then I filter out the gun powder. I also have a sugar cane farm, and use the new autocrafters to make rockets automatically. The redstone was complicated but felt really satisfying to finish.

    Oh also my pet snake started eating again. She was on a hunger strike for some reason but ate this last time I fed her, so hopefully that’s over and I’ll be able to start handling her again.

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      311 months ago

      Care-Comrade

      thank you ❤️

      It’s a mob farm, then I filter out the gun powder.

      this is a brilliant distraction - a sentence where I understand each word separately but adds up to something utterly baffling! “Mob farm”?? 😂 I know it’s not this, but the idea that you’re growing little Minecraft Sopranos guys really tickles me. “Filter out the gunpowder”?!?

      And how does a sugarcane farm end up creating rockets?! If sugar powers the rockets, do you think maybe the exhaust smells like burnt marshmallows??? 🤩

      What’s your snake’s name? How old is she? When she’s feeling friendly, in what way do you hang out? Does she explore your home or does she usually prefer hanging out on the nice warm people?

      • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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        311 months ago

        meow-hug of course!

        A clear cut case of me not wanting to over explain, so I under explain oh-shit I hope this comes out semi readable.

        A “mob” in minecraft is all the non player characters/entities. cows, chickens and pigs are all passive mobs, creepers, zombies, spiders and skeletons are all hostile mobs. There’s more, but those last 4 are what this farm “spawns” (they just appear out of thin air). Mobs all have their own spawning conditions, but these four need somewhere dark, on a solid block, and somewhat close but not too close to the player. There is also a cap on how many hostile mobs can be in the world at any one time. We exploit these mechanics by building in the middle of an ocean. This ensures mobs can’t spawn in caves or other areas on the surface, slowing the farm. The place for the player to stand is way up in the sky, so nothing can spawn in caves under the ocean We have multiple platforms stacked up for them to spawn on, and then have a machine periodically place water, to flush the mobs down the kill chamber where they die from fall damage.

        The filtering out part is going to sound complicated, but is actually very easy to build. First I should say that creepers drop gunpowder, which is the main thing we wanted from this farm but my friends build the farm wrong (creepers have subtly different requirements, for example zombies and skeletons need a full two blocks to spawn in, but creepers need more like 1.9 blocks. If you place trap doors on every block mobs can spawn, you will block zombies and skeletons from ever spawning. Unfortunately we missed a few spots so we get a few of those.). Gunpowder has two main uses, rockets and tnt. Personally I never use tnt but one of my friends was insistent that we have some separated out. Rockets are incredibly useful. When you fly with an elytra its more of a glide without them to boost you along. With the rockets you go way faster, and can fly up instead of just gliding to the ground. Obviously flying everywhere is more fun and faster so we go through a lot of rockets.

        Anyway to filter the gunpowder out we have all the items (string, bones, rotten flesh, and the gunpowder) through a line of hoppers. Hoppers are a block that take items from one place and move them to another place, like another hopper, autocrafter, or a chest. So we have this line of hoppers, that will take all the items and underneath is a hopper that only has gunpowder in it and can’t move the items anywhere because it is powered/“locked” (funny how that works isn’t it, usually things only work when powered). So it can’t move items from itself, but can still pick them up. When it grabs one more item, it triggers a comparator (just a little redstone component that detects how many items are in a hopper or chest). This is linked up to unpower the hopper for a brief moment, letting the locked hopper release one item. This line underneath now only has gunpowder. I take that to a bunch of chests to store it in, and then once all those chests are full it takes the gunpowder to the rocket making part of the farm. Also a quick note, the unfiltered items (rotten flesh, string, etc) just get put in some other chests or discarded if those are full. They weren’t the focus of the farm (we actually took a few steps to not get any, but alas).

        Whew! That was a lot of information. Hope I didn’t lose you. Let’s talk about my snake for a minute before I talk about the rocket half, which I am very excited to talk about because it was all my own design.

        I’m kind of terrible with names ohnoes I usually just call her the banana, because she is a banana ball python. She’s actually a lot brighter of a yellow then any of those pictures, like unbelievably yellow. Her brightest yellows look more like the yellows on an albino. But she is not an albino, she doesn’t have any white and she has those cute looking black dots. I would post a picture but snakes can have fairly unique patterns and I am overly cautious (paranoid). I can DM you a few pictures if you want though.

        Anyway (my god I can talk, right?) She’s around 6, I’ve had her for about half that. I bought her from a breeder who was moving out of state, and couldn’t keep everything so she was already an adult. Most of the time when she’s out, she’s wrapped around my arm or someone else’s. I will put her on the ground and let her wander around for a little bit every time I get her out, but there’s a lot of places for her to get lost (hide, in her mind) and once she does she isn’t going to come out willingly. Once they have found a little crevice or hide for themselves, they go from “oh let’s explore” mode to “I am hidden, and will stand my ground against anyone who wishes to take me from my safe space” mode, so that’s a bit of a problem quokka-smile Snakes have very distinct behavioral “modes” they go in to and keeping them in the right one is really important (but not very hard!).

        Wow I love talking about snakes. Let’s see… we had just finished sorting the gunpowder from everything else, and bringing it to the sugar cane farm. The sugar cane is harvested automatically by a flying machine. I have some observers (another redstone component, this time it powers when a block “updates” [which can mean a lot of things, in this case its when the sugar cane below it grows]) that trigger the harvesting. It triggers both the collection system (a hopper in a minecart which loops around under the sugar cane), and the flying machine to break it all. Honestly I don’t understand how it works well enough to explain it, but its two pistons pushing and pulling each other and it just works. The hopper minecart unloads all of the sugar cane it picked up and the flying machine returns to the activation mechanism.

        A hopper takes the sugar cane and puts it into an autocrafter. A comparator measures how many are in there, and when it hits three sends a signal to craft it into paper. This paper is then combined with gunpowder to make firework rockets. I use comparitors to make sure both are at least somewhat stocked and if they both are, that generates a pulse to make the crafter spit out rockets. I wired it up to repeat this pulse until it runs out of either ingredient, then it shuts off. I know it sounds like the lamest part but getting it to loop properly with the timings and not triggering more then its supposed to (if you trigger the crafter at the wrong time, or put too many items in you can get the wrong output which would fill the firework/rocket chests and look ugly) was really challenging cheems

        I have always thought of them as like ancient Chinese fireworks, having them be sugar powered makes them even more low tech then that and I love it.

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          211 months ago

          (my god I can talk, right?)

          and it’s wonderful – reading this comment like

          that shit was fascinating, thank you for taking the time to type it all up! I hope you had as much fun writing it as I had reading it. ❤️ meow-coffee

          I love “The Banana,” I think that’s a great name!! I didn’t know about snakes’ behavior modes, that does sound like a challenge! Are you into reptiles generally or just snakes?

          You have an incredible talent for explaining things. I haven’t played much Minecraft (I couldn’t figure out a pov that didn’t make me super motion sick), and though I’ve watched my husband and kid play enough to know a lot of vocabulary and a few mechanics, I don’t actually understand very much of it.

          Your explanation of your farm and the amazing process you’ve got set up to make fireworks was perfectly comprehensible for me – like, actually perfect, it was never boring, it was the exact right amount of detail, it was perfect. 🤩

          dprk-general

          You are awesome and your posts rock. Thank you very much for sharing your time and interests with me, I love it. lenin-heart

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            I did have fun writing it! I rarely get the opportunity.

            Its actually not that bad, once you understand there are very clear signs and its easy to read their body language. Their modes being so distinct is really helpful, like knowing if they are hungry and want to eat, feeling scared, or if they are just exploring and checking out their surroundings.

            I love all reptiles! I especially love how diverse snakes are as a group, and how easy they are to care for though. You can really find a species that works for you, and I love that. I actually have another snake, a corn snake who is so chill I can hand them off to anyone and know it won’t be an issue. There are lots of cool lizards, I’m a big fan of the argus monitor, everyone I’ve heard talk about them has talked about how personable they are (plus they look so cool!). A dream reptile for me. One of my favorite trips was when my family went to an alligator farm, and they let me hold some of the babies. One of them was like three feet long (quite the baby, lol). Now that I think of it, I have a lot of fond memories of reptiles at zoos and such.

            Aw thank you, that means a lot. I’m glad I did a good job, it felt long winded.

            That’s unfortunate sadness I’ve never had to deal with motion sickness thankfully, but from what I’ve been told it sounds really awful. I know you didn’t necessarily ask for advice, but I know on PC there’s a view bobbing setting, and I’ve heard turning it off can help with motion sickness a lot (and honestly I can see why, its a little much for me too). Maybe that’s worth a try, if you haven’t already? (also I find the default sensitivity is really high, but again maybe you already played with that/and I don’t really understand what actually causes motion sickness) Glad your husband can play at least, I remember when I was younger (well and still now, I suppose) how special minecraft was and how much I loved doing that kind of thing with my parents so I’m sure they appreciate it.

            No you are awesome! Your enthusiasm has really made my day. Thanks for listening! You are such a good listener! Your family is really lucky.

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              meow-hug That is such a kind thing to say 😭❤️

              I’ve gotten motion sickness ever since childhood. I remember being able to read while laying in the floor on a some road trips in early elementary school, but I had to stop by the time I was 9-10, and eventually got to the point where I needed to keep my eyes on the road to make the data from my inner ears and eyes agree, or I’d be miserable the whole time.

              San Francisco Rush was the first video game to cause it and make me stop trying to play it, and I couldn’t even watch my brother play Descent for more than a couple minutes, let alone play it myself. Multiplayer stuff is a lot easier; I can play Mario Kart with the family just fine, but I get very sick if I solo.

              I don’t usually actually throw up, it just feels terrible (overwhelming nausea, hot and cold chills, dizzy, eventually my whole body feels heavy and I have to lay down) and lasts for a while after the stimulus stops. Dramamine helped when I was a kid but even the non-drowsy kind knocked me right the fuck out, so I haven’t tried it in a long time.

              I just do my best to avoid situations that would cause it 🤷 it’s nbd. Watch other people play dizzying games from far enough away that there’s enough “standing still” in my periphery to keep my eyes and ears in agreement, watch the road carefully when I’m in a vehicle, avoid spinning carnival rides, etc.

              SEE! I can talk, too! 😂

              Now I’m gonna go look up “Argus monitor” and find out what they look like! Do you have any thoughts about why they’re so personable?

              Edit: I looked them up! 🤩

              What a cutie!!

              😎

              fun things I learned from their Wikipedia article:

              The Argus monitor displays great sexual dimorphism, with the female reaching an average total length of three feet (90 cm), while the male reaches an average of 4–5 feet (120–150 cm).

              😂 Large adult sons indeed!! Would you want a male or female?

              Argus monitors will often “tripod”, raising up on their hind legs and supporting themselves with their tail. This unusual behavior is used to spot potential prey or enemies from a distance or when they are threatened. They exhibit this behavior regularly in captivity as well. This habit provides them a unique characteristic that separates them from most other monitors.

              omg 🤩😍🥰

              Its prey consists of almost anything that it can overpower.

              Better stay swole! 😂

              Recent studies suggest that the infestation of cane toads, a novel and toxic species, has severely damaged the population structure of Argus monitors within the Top End. It is estimated that numbers have dropped by as much as 90% in many areas.

              sadness

              Many individuals of this species are captive bred as a conservation effort against poisoning from the cane toad infestation of the species’ native range and as exotic pets.

              You totally need a mating pair! It’s for conservation!!!

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                That’s so interesting and weird, especially how some games effect it more then others. I’ve never felt anything like that. At least you are still able to drive! Has it always been this way for you, or did it get worse/better with time?

                I think its because of their intelligence. Monitors as a group of some of the smartest lizards. Apparently they can count and know their name (not impressive by mammal/dog standards I know but for reptiles, that’s something). And yes they are so cute! I really love their long necks, they look like a dinosaur. Monitors are also a group that hasn’t changed much with time, like crocodilians.

                I’d rather a male, if I had space. They are actually very lean and have big tails, so I don’t think a four foot lizard is actually quite as big as it might sound. A side note, for snakes the sexual dimorphism is the opposite! Lizards tend to have big males, and snakes almost exclusively have big females. Something to do with if males have to fight to reproduce.

                Yes the tripoding is so cute lenin-heart and they do it so much too. Just stand up and have a look around.

                Mostly small rodents and large bugs, but transitioning and losing my strength is an actual concern of mine for this reason sweat They obviously couldn’t actually kill/eat me but I’d hate for my love of reptiles, especially larger ones to put me in a bad spot post hrt. Maybe I’ll end up with a female, haha.

                Reptile, and animal populations in general are in such a grim place. So much habitat loss.

                I’d love a mating pair! One potential problem is most reptiles don’t like being kept together, so you end up needing basically double of everything.

                • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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                  I’m sorry to have taken so long to reply! My problems with motion sickness have unfortunately only gotten worse as I’ve gotten older, and like most of my fun little bodily quirks, it got worse after carrying a child. I’m actually calling this morning to try to see a doctor finally about it all, because I think it might all be Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, which would explain some otherwise very strange occurrences in my family’s medical history. And it would mean that actually my generally pretty good luck didn’t actually take a horrible turn in my 20s, it has been fine, because being pregnant with EDS could have killed me and so could have several other issues. Happy to discuss more in DM if you’re curious, but yeah, I keep dodging the reaper somehow. 💃

                  I had no idea that any lizards were capable of counting! I know beardies are supposed to be smart and personable too, but it sounds like monitors are smarter? That is so cool. Huge and smart – lizard puppos? 😍😂

                  I knew that transitioning causes women to lose strength and bone density, but I hadn’t really thought about how that would affect their ability to participate in their established hobbies, even though it’s obvious. 🤦

                  Do you have the time and resources to do strength training to help? I have enjoyed the little bit I’ve done, but I’m a little worried that some of the things I do are making some of my joints worse, and if I do have EDS, it’s a really stupid thing to be doing to myself. And that’s why I need a doctor and an approved exercise program! How do you feel about exercise? Which kinds do you like?

                  Do you have a doctor that you like? Do you find talking to medical professionals as dreadful and terrifying as I do?

                  I’ve even been excited for my son to gain strength and maybe even a little height as he transitions (we think/hope he started early enough to help with height), because then he can help me reach and lift more things! 😂 Obviously I love seeing him become more himself, and I know he’s having challenges too, but it’s only been a few months he’s already over half an inch taller and his voice is changing, and I’m really looking forward to him patting me on the head someday and calling me his smol mom 🥰😍 and then getting that thing out of the cabinet on top of the fridge for me! 😂

                  How did your reptile fascination start? Do you have the opportunities and resources to do any related volunteer work? I’m from a rural area and wished very badly to be closer to a big city when I was little so I could volunteer at a zoo or aquarium. Do you have any interest in doing anything with reptiles professionally?

                  I have loved talking to you and appreciate your kindness and brilliant distractions very very much. I’m doing better now, and you have very much helped. Please don’t feel obligated to keep entertaining my questions, but also please know that I love and appreciate it. You’re a wonderful person with fascinating interests, and you generously and patiently share your knowledge and enthusiasm.

                  You’re an absolute delight. meow-hug Thank you so much for your time and care.

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      211 months ago

      Care-Comrade

      Thank you ❤️ That is honestly the best news I’ve heard in months! That is fucking awesome!! How are you feeling about the move and the new job environment? Are you doing the same thing in different place?

      • Beetle_O_Rourke [she/her, comrade/them]
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        211 months ago

        Bootstrapped myself from NEET Linux nerd to RHEL infrastructure nerd with the help of a relative.

        I am a little scared of being deepsouth wihout the funds for a decent gun, but very excited about the work itself.

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          That’s a fantastic accomplishment!!!

          meow-bounce

          Congratulations on that transition, that’s awesome!!

          Does the job pay well enough to hopefully allow you to afford a gun soon-ish? I would feel a little sketched out, too.

          scared

          • Beetle_O_Rourke [she/her, comrade/them]
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            211 months ago

            Yes, it does, but it’s my third priority behing having enough cash to move out should my relationship with the family friend who offered me a room turn sour, and some LONG overdue dental work.

            • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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              Your pragmatism and determination are inspiring. You seem like a badass at heart, and I love it.

              red-fist

              I hope your living situation stays peaceful, your dental work is done inexpensively by an expert, and you get an awesome deal on the exact gun you’ve always wanted. ❤️

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    My partner made extremely yummy food! I failed to beat Malenia again today, so that’s 2 days of trying, but I’ll get there. I made it to phase 2 today, so it’s only a matter of time!

    In general, I am extremely fortunate to have made it to a point where I truly don’t feel like my life is missing anything, and can reliably keep a roof over my head with some savings. I know this is more than many people can say for themselves, but I allow myself to be happy about my own position, as I’m ultimately just another worker.

    I wish I could reach out and help you, but in absence of that I want to say I am here to lend an ear if you need help. It does get better. I used to think about harming myself daily, even hourly, but I can say that over time those feelings have become far less frequent. It still happens every once in a while, or I’ll get extremely anxious, but forward progress keeps me hopeful.

    I hope you have a happy birthday!

      • Cowbee [he/him, they/them]
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        No problem!

        It took a lot of time, and a lot of change. A few years ago I had a really bad job, no friends, and no family nearby to speak of. I had moved far away for a job for a fresh start, with no safety net. Conditions were unsafe, working hours were long with no overtime, and higher-ups were abusive. I had no safety net, so I stuck with it for a while to escape it.

        Eventually, I met my partner while working there, a true sweetheart. I found a new job, we moved to a new city, got another fresh start, but this time I had a better career and a safety net. Things got better, got back to cooking and reading, and really was able to feel content.

        Basically, a whole lot of luck, and the willingness and ability to get out.

        One thing I want to stress is that there were several times where I felt hopeless and with no way out, but time passing really does change everything.

        As for Malenia, she is a boss in Elden Ring, haha. I’ve had a bit of extra time lately and wanted to finally play it. Beat her last night, finally!

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    Hey what’s up, I got my friend to play some video games with me which I hadn’t done in a while. It’s surprising how much more fun it is to do something with other people as opposed to going alone.

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        211 months ago

        Little bit of Path of Exile, Astroneer, Lethal Company. I used to play a lot of Valorant with my friends but my life immediately got better when I quit that game entirely stonks-up

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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          I’ve heard of Path of Exile but never bothered looking at it before, and it looks like something my husband and son would really like! I had never heard of Astroneer at all, and that looks really cool and like something I might even like to play with them. I love how far back the pov is – first-person and even very close third-person gives me motion sickness.

          Thank you for telling me it exists! stalin-heart

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    Pro: I love you and the world is a better place with you in it, even if birthdays are… a mixed bag so to say

    I mean, hell, my partners car popped a tire so we had to borrow her mom’s car and it didn’t have A/C, so we had to run our errands in 90°F+ heat and couldn’t even enjoy our leisure time because we were dying from getting baked

    And my birthday cake melted in the heat too, but we salvaged it

    Suffice to say, there’s ups and downs and believe me, sometimes those downs are downs

    You are a beautiful spark in the darkness, don’t let it snuff you out

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]OP
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      You are a beautiful spark in the darkness, don’t let it snuff you out

      😭 this is the kindest thing anyone has said to me in a while, and it makes me cry every time I read it

      I appreciate your kindness more than I can say, thank you very very much ❤️

      Care-Comrade

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      211 months ago

      Cats can snore?!? 😂

      thank you for this delightful knowledge ❤️

      cuddle

      I have never met a cat who snores! Your cat sounds awesome! 😻

      Huge cat zoomies are hilarious. This chubby jerk loves ping-ponging off furniture and regularly knocks over dining chairs

      He also yells at us when the windows are shut but he thinks they should be open 😂