• Dogiedog64
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      Anon is a closeted bi and open femboy, and just doesn’t want to admit he likes it. Meanwhile, he’s totally fine being someone’s FB for free rent, but also feels guilty that he is kinda messing with his other friends in the meantime.

      Basically, Anon is a moron.

      • @CleoTheWizard@lemmy.world
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        149 months ago

        Sounds more to me like anon isn’t romantically attracted to men but is sexually. Which is very confusing if you don’t have words for it but that simple language/label would solve anons problems

        • Dogiedog64
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          FB - Fuck Buddy, Friend with Benefits, or whatever you wanna call it. Someone who engages in regular sexual activities with a small group of people, usually just one, in exchange for some good or service. In Anon’s case, he’s a power-bottom femboy who gets fucked in exchange for free rent.

  • Dyskolos
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    Had this friend who swears he was straight. But. He loved dicks, coz they’re “so aethetical” and despised vajayjays coz “they’re disgusting axe-wounds”. When i dared saying he sounds more gay than straight he was furiously pissed and in the end quit the friendship coz I’m just “straightphobe” and seeing gays everywhere.

    I didn’t really know - being a logical being - how to react to all of this. He was dead serious. Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi nor gay.

    • @thanatotus@lemmy.ml
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      Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi or gay.

      That’s hilarious, I wouldn’t know how to react lmao

      • Dyskolos
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        In hindsight it kinda was funny. Though also supersad, seeing him THAT delusional just because we are the remnants of a generation brought up with hate for gays. I didn’t really cared about his sexual preferences. He was a great dude. Yet he’s gone due to this repression of such a trivial matter.

    • @Hadriscus@lemm.ee
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      He was dead serious. Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi nor gay.

      Nah, lol. I can’t believe this

      • Dyskolos
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        I still can’t either… Then again, people really believe some fantasy-stories about some omnipotent god and his son’s adventures on earth. So why shouldn’t one believe one is straight, despite all sign one is not. At least it would make more sense than most cults stories 😁

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    9 months ago

    I’m so confused. I think I’m just going to go soak in the tub and stare at my toes.

    • Who knew?
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      yeah this bitch is totally straight because she is a girl actually

  • @VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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    Can’t tell if oop is transman or transwoman or cis guy on hrt. No matter which one they are still bi and should just learn to accept it.

      • @Laurentide@pawb.social
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        79 months ago

        The same reason anyone would be: because their current body doesn’t match their gender identity and they want to change that. This person just happened to start inside the same arbitrary social category as their destination.

        • @Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
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          I’m confused

          The word cisgender (often shortened to cis; sometimes cissexual) describes a person whose gender identity corresponds to their sex assigned at birth, i.e., someone who is not transgender.

          If they’re taking hrt it sounds like they’d want to change their gender

          • @Laurentide@pawb.social
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            129 months ago

            Just as some AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth) men want to look more masculine and will work out at the gym or take testosterone supplements, some AMAB men are femboys and may temporarily take feminizing HRT to look less masculine.

            Both are trying to change their bodies to better fit their gender identity, and femboy is clearly a different identity from gym bro, but they are both male gender identities.

          • @VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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            Low to no sexdrive and they want to have one

            Trying to stop or slow down the progression of male pattern baldness

            Loss of muscle mass.

            To fix low testosterone

            Maybe they are not trans but want to be more feminine looking.

    • stebo
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      since by straight they meant liking women I assume it’s a transman no? I’m unsure too though

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              In short: Femboy is about presenting as a very feminine man, men doing that can include trans men.

              Slightly longer: It’s why there are different categories for sex, gender assigned at birth, gender identity and gender expression. A femboy would identify male and express feminine. The opposite is a tomboy, somebody who identifies as female and expresses in a masculine manner, both are not necessarily linked to the individuals sex and/or gender assigned at birth.

              Trans refers to a different gender identity than the gender assigned at birth and doesn’t come into play here.

  • Who knew?
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    if you are a woman then how is that not straight to fuck man

  • Fushuan [he/him]
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    169 months ago

    When they say femboy they mean that they are a trans man that doesn’t present itself as manly enough or a trans female that hasn’t transitioned that much yet?

    In one of those cases being into dudes would be being straight.

    • @Peruvian_Skies@sh.itjust.works
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      No, a femboy is a feminine boy. They usually crossdress or at least dress androginously. They don’t necessarily want to transition or take HRT (although this one does).

      • Fushuan [he/him]
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        89 months ago

        Given that this one does, and that a trans person that wants to transition would refer to themselves as the gender they want to transition, they would be a trans male. However it’s 4chan and fake so I bet they meant a trans female, where being into dudes would be being straight.

          • Fushuan [he/him]
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            59 months ago

            It might be in this case, but I would not object for a trans man to call themselves femboy if they look like a feminine boy, since for all that matters to me a trans man is a man.

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              You may not object but that’s not how the word is commonly used. Anyone can call themselves anything, but for words to have any meaning we need to have a gentleman’s agreement about when and how to use them, which is basically what a language is.

              Anyway, I’m just explaining the word’s conventional meaning. I have no interest in arguing with you as if I were some kind of linguistic prescriptivist.

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          209 months ago

          He can still be an amab femboy and take hrt to become more feminine without transitioning to become a woman. He does not claim to be trans, just a femboy.

          • Fushuan [he/him]
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            39 months ago

            Well sure but… Why? That’s a great way to give a huge blow to your body for fun. Anyway, it’s 4chan so whatever. In any case you are right, I assumed more than was stated.

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              Can’t give a general answer, but we can look to history. Consider the Castrati: removing the testicles before puberty prevented a boy’s voice from changing, giving them a high singing voice in adulthood.

            • @weker01@sh.itjust.works
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              People modify (“deal a huge blow to” in your words) their bodies all the time to fit certain preferences. Be it tattoos, piercings (including earrings), cosmetic surgery or even stuff like body building.

              It is not that strange that people want to express themselves with their body.

            • shuzuko
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              89 months ago

              Does it matter why? Bodily autonomy means bodily autonomy for everyone, regardless of whether you “understand” or or not. If he wants to be a more feminized masc, is it hurting you?

              • Fushuan [he/him]
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                39 months ago

                No, it’s not, which is why I agreed that you were right in that very same post.

      • Fushuan [he/him]
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        19 months ago

        That’s what I assumed and I was making fun of the poster because if that were the case, being into guys would be being straight.

        But that’s our assumption, it’s true that it might just be a dude that likes being feminine, no trans involved.

        • @AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net
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          59 months ago

          I’ve heard from a few transfem lesbian friends that one of the hardest parts of coming out to themselves as trans was that it would also mean acknowledging they’re not straight, because if you’re someone who feels like you’re failing at being a man, attraction to women can be pretty grounding. “It was the one normal thing about me” - whole lot of internalised misogyny/transphobia/homophobia.

          But that’s our assumption, it’s true that it might just be a dude that likes being feminine, no trans involved.

          Quite right; labels like straight get pretty wibbly in situations like this. I find it sad because the current prevalence of homophobia and transphobia makes it hard for us to collectively understand what would it mean to be a cis-het femboy who takes HRT — for us to conceptualise of a world where that isn’t a contradiction. Bigotry makes it harder for people to explore their true selves, regardless of their gender or sexuality.

      • Fushuan [he/him]
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        49 months ago

        Femboy and tomboy are terms that precede the inception of the first genZ though?

      • @djsoren19@yiffit.net
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        From my experience, you still use twink to refer to a male-presenting queer man, a femboy is basically a female-presenting twink.

  • Guy Ingonito
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    I’ve known a lot of gay and asexual women that end up in this exact scenario