good deed done for the day. Someone on reddit wanted a postcard from aus so just got that done. Jesus my writing is appalling.
Are they a collector of postcards or something?
I think so. said they didnt have one from Aus.
I love this.
Postcards are awesome.
happy to send you one when I go away next if you want.
Thanks, Tiny. ☺️
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Two years ago, I went to see a psychiatrist for an ADHD assessment. Did some questionnaires, as did my mum, and after a half an hour telehealth consultation, I was told I have ADHD. The report I was given by this psychiatrist was riddled with spelling and grammar mistakes, and claimed things like I have binge eating disorder and insomnia, when I don’t have either of those things. The directions for medications were vague, and the GP I went to had trouble following what was written. This GP isn’t thorough himself, writing me a mental health care plan with also lots of mistakes, and one that said I was going to see a psychologist because of three types of insomnia that you can’t have all at once. But to avoid paying $60 out of pocket to see the more thorough GP up the road, I didn’t really have a choice. Besides, that GP said, “Really?!! We would’ve picked that up when you were younger,” when I said I thought I had ADHD.
So today, the GP asked me if I really needed medication. I tell him that’s his job to determine, but I have always struggled to stay afloat doing pretty much anything, and it’s made my life hell. He then asked me if I wanted to try a different medication, so he can change the permit to allow him to prescribe it. I told him I didn’t want to try a long-acting medication again, because I couldn’t sleep. He then tells me that he can’t change the permit to let me have something else, and the report is shit, and I should see a psychiatrist again.
$900 out of pocket to see the first psychiatrist, probably a couple of hundred to try medication for depression and ADHD, lots of learned helplessness and valuable time lost… and now even more money down the drain. The price gouging is insane, exploiting people who are struggling and in need of answers. I’ve also heard of people who got a diagnosis, and somehow they’ve missed bipolar disorder when taking their hx, and oop, they’ve ended up with stimulant-induced psychosis.
I went to the optometrist last year, who said I have a focusing problem with my eyes. Maybe that’s what it’s been this whole time.
It just makes me wonder if I should even bother trying meds, or if I should just give up. But I cannot keep maintaining the status quo, or I will be giving up on life.
Hopefully you can get a second opinion from a different psychiatrist. I have heard stories before of people having additional conditions to adhd, which get missed because adhd symptoms can overlap with other things. If the medication is causing your life quality to be lower than without it, this sounds like it’s definitely the wrong stuff and needs a review. Taking it should be helpful, not make things worse.
That’s such fucking bullshit, and sadly a story I’ve heard before.
I feel for you. Hearing what people I know pay for psych appointment is horrendous.
I saw this. Thought youse might like it.
Love it!
I am feeling this very hard today!
I feel that in my bones lol
I think know what I’m going to use those virtual desktops, or remote spaces for. I’ve got a couple of projects at work on the go already now, so instead of having a bunch of tabs open across two screens I can separate them out to their own desktops and have everything I need for them there.
That way I won’t get lost amongst all the tabs and I can keep focused on one specific task at a time. Let’s see if it works
I’m going to wait 2 weeks before approaching my manager again about the outcome of the raise discussions.
Have kept applying and have a couple more interviews next week.
Will have to be working outside office hours anyway, and the raise would make it worthwhile, but we’ll see.
Fingers crossed.
Lets hope you get a raise to make it worth it or a job that’s just better overall
Fingers crossed. What i asked for would make it worth it.
Will it be worth it if you got the raise?
From the impression I got it felt like they were overloading you with clients and work.
There’s got to be a point where you have to tell them that you’ve been given too much work or too many clients to deal with?
Honestly, I don’t know. The raise would be life changing. I could actually buy a house a lot sooner.
I am overloaded. And I will need to work outside office hours. But everything has a cost. Depends what we want to sacrifice to achieve our goals.
In the least, it will give me an incredible ability to handle large amounts of work which I can take with me to another place.
Life has so many tough decisions.
Good news is I’m back from the shops with everything we need until next week. Bad news is it took 2 hours. Good news is the dog didn’t shit on my carpet while we were gone.
Spent a good chunk of the day applying for roles in different departments. There’s 3 I am super keen on, wish me luck.
I guess if they pay you 3 salaries, you can do 3 roles. Sounds exhausting though!
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Good luck! I got the one I applied for in December.
Congrats!!
Thankyou. I’m second guessing myself even before I’ve started. It’s a six month secondment, so we’ll see how I go!
You’ll do fine. If you have something to fall back onto, even better.
Good luck!
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Was the previous daily deleted by accident?
Edit: Baku’s account isn’t showing up.
The server returned this error: couldnt_find_person.
Following some research into yesterday’s thread, which I still have access to minus Baku’s comments which were deleted by their account at around midnight, it appears this is American election related.
I have no issue with free discussion and civil disagreements, I have no intention of over controlling discussion on this forum.
My main concern here is how the history of this groups previous dailies may have been impacted as a result of a user who had been posting the daily and I will need to start considering more appropriate means of posting dailies to avoid this kind of issue going forward.
As some of you may have noticed, I’m not too talkative most days and I mostly just check in at midnight if I am awake to make sure the previous daily ends and the new one begins. I don’t have any reports to action, but I will need to have a look at the threads I personally have access to some more. But most importantly I am going to have to consider how to ensure a more consistent daily thread that is less likely to disappear, whether I can return it myself or not, etc.
Additionally, it’s about time I start investigating Lemmy’s bot mechanics, I was waiting to complete my current personal server migration to a complete hypervisor solution rather than utilising one of my already overworked Raspberry Pi’s, I’ll have to get on to this matter more quickly.
Edit2: It’s starting to look like I will be unable to return the posts that where deleted as a result of Baku’s account nuking, I do have personal access to all of them without their comments as it was actioned by me in featuring them, but the posts themselves where of the account that is now no longer available.
This makes it clear that I need to make some changes going forward in how the daily functions.
I just noticed that. Is it just the thread or is Baku nuked?
It’s my damn fault. I brought up an awkward topic. :( My comment should have been deleted, or I should have received a warning to not talk about such things. Not him.
Is he going to be allowed back?
It is looking like they deleted their account and comments, without seeing their comments I don’t have a full picture of whether they said anything that would warrant a banning of future Baku accounts.
I haven’t seen anything so far that was by you and targeted harassment toward other users.
Yeah my comment was nothing like that. Just discussing a controversial action by a public figure.
Baku is a regular and not a troll. He just said something divisive.
It wasn’t you. It was me melbaboutown.
Oh ok, I just assumed I had called down the lightning bolt of automoderation
his posts and comments are coming up deleted
That appears the case, I have access to deleted threads minus just Baku’s comments.
deleted by creator
I sent you a dm with the screenshots for your assessment.
Thank you for that, I have taken a look at them with greater context of what was being discussed in yesterday’s thread.
We hadn’t dealt with this kind of issue from regulars that I have seen from my notifications or the modlog until now, I would have preferred Baku had reported your comments so that I could have actioned them when I came online at midnight.
Part of the issue may have been my lack of participation in the daily discussions themselves, so I haven’t been as viewable as I should be, but I have been checking daily for months. It’s important that we avoid letting these kinds of interpersonal issues feel like they aren’t going to be actioned by the mods.
Your comments directed towards Baku appear to be targeted in a way that are absolutely against the community rules, the subject matter is allowed as we haven’t barred specific topics from the daily, only the manner in which users talk to each other. I have yet to issue just a temporary band so far on this platform, so I am learning as I go.
Considering that part of this issue is the lack of established rules, penalties and more importantly the lack of assurance that I will action issues in due time, this isn’t a permanent ban. You will be welcome back in 72hrs, knowing that I can’t guarantee not issuing a permanent ban if an issue like this where to occur by yourself or another user in the future.
Today was a weird day for everyone, come back in 3 days and let’s get back to normal appropriate behaviour. I will be looking at where I went wrong and hopefully have a community post in how we can avoid this in the future by the time you come back.
Edit3: I have spoken to both Starchy & Baku in DM’s, Baku didn’t intend for the previous threads to go down and they are currently still publicly viewable here;
https://sh.itjust.works/c/[email protected]
Edit4: It’s looking like it may take 30 days for federated instance to scrap deleted account content, hopefully that is the case, and we can archive the daily’s posted by Baku’s account before they are completely gone.
Understood and accepted, no arguments from me, I was in the wrong. Thank you for looking into it, and I appreciate you taking the time out of your night to do so.
An automated daily posting would be the right way to go, if it’s possible. It means it’s not dependant on any specific user being awake, remembering, or have obligations to remain a user here, in case they ever wish to delete their account. A lot of people find value in the community here and it would be a pity to loose that. I feel terrible about the interactions I saw yesterday. I hope Baku and Spud both Ok and would like to come back when they are ready.
It really really should be posted by a specific account or something. Could maybe set one up and give regulars the password on request? Only allow dt threads on it and revoke access for misuse?
I’ve noticed that the Brisbane mob seem to have a daily bot - maybe if we ask them nicely they’ll share the code?
Hmm that’s certainly something I didn’t see coming.
Thought the threads would still be here but it looks like they were totally wiped out of existence.
If I look at my own personal history I can see the comments I made to yesterday’s thread, just not the thread nor other poster’s comments.
They are currently still public on another instance;
I can only see seagoons ones (admittedly on a client app)
When you click in the app, I believe it redirects you to your local instance where it is already removed.
I have screenshots, I went off on him. I take the blame tbh.
I’ve unsubbed to c/Melbourne, so he’s free to come back or whatever he wants to do. If you want the screenshots to make an assessment, DM me and I can send you them.
I appreciated you pointing out that his initial comment that prompted your reaction was quite thoughtless, but can tell from previous interactions that you two had some tension.
Today was an odd day. I got anxious yesterday which continued to this morning, but I just couldn’t put a finger on it.
At least it wore off as the day went on. (Probably the whole IKEA debacle helped. Funny that.)
Group hug for DDT. 🖤
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Shit sleep gang yaaaaay
It’s OK to discuss difficult issues, even if it gets a little ugly sometimes.
Because that means we are talking which is far better than not talking at all. If we don’t talk about difficult issues then how can we learn about each other and the issues.
I missed all the drama but agree with what you say.
What happened anyway?
I’ll tell you what happened. Spud took offense to something Baku said. Baku wanted to know what it was that was offensive. Spud launched an attack. Baku retaliated. Shots were fired from both sides about what one should be allowed to post. More shots and then Baku deleted his account.
Wait, what? I guess that explains why Baku messaged me out of the blue last night. It must have been just before he deleted his account.
I’ve been too busy at work; I missed everything. Nobody reported anything though - I would have seen that.
Hrm, he’s nuked his account entirely this time, not simply marked it as deleted. That means that all the posts/messages he’s created over 18 months are deleted from the database. Which will include many daily threads.
Not sure what I think about that. I think I’ll go for a run and ponder stuff.
Looks like some disagreements over discussing the US election got heated?
think you might be underselling it. I think a fairer assessment is some people got attacked.
Lets just revist our rules shall we:
We might not agree about everything, but we always strive to stay civil and respectful.
I probably am underselling it, I didn’t see it all, just a few bits that are still up.
same, I don’t really see there was any bad comments
but here’s the thing
if people aren’t angry and motivated in this world then that’s a problem
we just have to be civil working together to try to sort if out and see what we can do
The comments I saw were fairly serious directed attacks towards another user, even if they were in the heat of the moment.
There was enough to understand why the user deleted their account in the moment, I had to consider permaban before settling with a tempban on just this occasion.
I didn’t see that stuff 😔
I tried to end the carnage but I couldn’t 😔
I didn’t see anything since I was away doing movie time.
Only came back to the aftermath of it.
Not entirely sure how bad it was.
From what i’ve pieced, an argument that got out of control because everyone is on absolute defcon 5 due to america going insane.
Which i totally get. I’ve seen more than a few people being blithe about this at people who live or have experience closer to the edges of society and honestly that’s not a kind or smart thing to do.
I knew the election had a very heavy emotional effect on some here.
We and the world survived his previous stint in the Oval Office. We’ll make it again.
The world has survived a lot of things. We’ve also lost a lot of things we shouldn’t have doing so.
I know you mean well, but be careful. Saying something like that to someone who’s literally a cunthair from being rounded up really doesn’t’ come across as anything other than toxic positivity.
I wasn’t quite sure if I should have said anything or not and even trying to be well meaning it’s being taken quite negatively so I’ll go back to staying quiet about it.
Everyone’s at peak shaved monkey touchiness (to quote pratchett) 'cos it absolutely fucking sucks. It’s insane.
Don’t be quiet. Let people know you’re there for them. Let them know you don’t think this is ok. Let them know you think it sucks and you hope there are better days ahead - but yeah, be aware that platitudes can sound so, so hollow right now.
I thought as much. What is happening in the US should be lesson for people here as to what not to do. Sadly, there are plenty who think that is the right direction to take.
Just yesterday I saw dome dork in a MAGA hat in my neighbourhood. My initial reaction is punch someone line that in the throat (had family that died under Nazi occupation), however the best thing to do is ignore their colours and educate others.
For now at least. I have a feeling that the high ground will not be option much longer. Really hope our leaders and media call this shit out for what it is.
Nah fam, totally throat punch the cunt.
(Not looking forward to this. My in laws are musk worshippers. We could gingerly avoid the subject when he was a kholed idiot talking shit, but since afd and now the salute a line has been crossed)
It’s a lot to process.
Agreed. Life isn’t always sunshine and roses.
little wins
Diet is slowly working. habits are changing. I have to take in some pants that are just too big now.
Getting rid of some “old lady” clothes too and soon will be buying some better more tailored and younger stuff. yay 😊
Love this for you.
I’ve been so bored with fashion lately, I am considering sewing a few of my own things this year.
how is it 7.30, I thought it was nearly 9
so tired, woke up at 1.30 with stabbing migraine
Perfect night to cuddle up with fluffy and a book.
Nice view out there as well
Goodnight all ❤️
So nice!
Beautiful.
Goodnight. 😘
sky pretty
