Bad, thanks! But I’m focused on taking care of my mother’s medically delicate cat while convincing a kitten to leave the door to the medically delicate cat alone.
Tired, anxious, depressed, feel like shit in general. Declined an invitation to play boardgames with some old friends this weekend because I feel tired and anxious and depressed and overwhelmed and now I have more anxiety and guilt because I feel like I should have gone and I will further lose contact with them over this and they will hate me now.
Speaking as someone with anxiety, try not to predict what others feel. You’re likely going to be wrong, and never in a good way. It’s not your responsibility to guess what others are feeling, it’s their responsibility to tell you. Always assume the most neutral opinion from others, and only change that if they say otherwise.
If you need to stay alone to recuperate, then go all-in on it. Let your friends know that you had a bout of anxiety. If you’re worried about them being upset, then not giving them a reason won’t help that.
I wish you the best, and please ask if you have any questions that I might be able to help with.
It gets like that sometimes and it’s so hard. Dragging yourself through life is exhausting, and it means we don’t have energy for seeing friends. Cancelling plans comes with it’s own problems though, that sets off all sorts of thoughts. How are you trying to manage it today?
To be honest I’m not really managing much, just been alternating between staring at the wall and staring at sports. I might go for a short run later on the treadmill.
I hear you. Going for a run is 100% a good idea it’ll help
I did go for a run and it did help a little.
Great well done
Can‘t recover from the death of my cat in october. It totally devastated me.
I feel you, my cat died August ‘23 and I am still having a rough time. I have since adopted two kittens and I love them both so much, but I really miss Polly.
I hope it gets better for you.
If I wouldn‘t have adopted the little jinx i probably would have died. Nontheless, i miss Fenya dearly.
Thanks. I guess it gets a bit easier over time
If you have some spare time, you might try visiting an animal shelter, just to give the animals there some playtime and affection. We are much longer-lived than our pets, and it’s our responsibility to make sure they have the best lives possible. I bet you did that for your kitty, and they were thankful for it.
She was my best buddy for 24 years. I‘ve rescued a kitten already and my now older cat is the best mother she could be.
The next shelter is a bit far away, though, so i am not that often there as i used to be
Awful, depressed, worthless, financially ruined. Currently sitting on my friends couch after sleeping here because my wife and I had the worst fight we ever had over the past 2 days, and I don’t we will recover as we both decided it’s probably best to just part ways but not sure how to make that work yet due to kids and schedules. This is a fun weekend…
Discovered my young daughter is self harming so really not great at the moment.
When I was 13, my parents discovered that my younger sister was self harming and even wrote a suicide note (and that she might be closetedly lesbian). All they did was yell at her, berate her, force her to cut up the note and blame social media. Somehow at that age I was more mature than two adults who decided to fucking have children. Though thats the average in arabia I guess…
Please don’t be mad at her, instead help and show that you love and care for her.
That’s a really helpless situation to be in. She’s your daughter, she’s someone whose safety is hugely important to you, and she’s hurting herself so badly. How are you going to try and handle it?
I think we have gone through all the emotions this past week! Speaking to people it seems like we caught it early on compared to others but it is still terrifying.
Yes it is. Stay strong
Between Tai Chi and meditation and yoga and resistance exercise and hiking, and better eating habits to stabilize blood sugar and overall health… everything is fine. Things are chaotic online, but people in the real world are happy and cordial around me and are living their lives all the same. Another thing that helped was not being chronically online. Looking at Lemmy/Reddit/etc/etc every day is depressing. Turns out tuning out more often increases mental health for me.
Not OK. Did not sleep well, again. Anxiety and frustrations work-related which will impact my home life. I need to rest.
Not sleeping is hard, you need that to function. How’s your sleep hygiene ?
Terrible. A lot of my sleep issues can be traced to my work schedule, which is something I’m trying to improve but my boss is actively working to make worse for me.
When anxiety hits, as it does with unresolved conflict, the negative effects compound exponentially. I can’t fix the root cause right now: I work too late for my well being and I can’t fix that with an incompetent authoritarian at the helm.
Yes it’s just rough for you right now. That’s not good
Actually very awesome today. Going to a protest with a new friend. Exciting!
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Really not great. Can’t motivate myself to keep studying, gotta find a new job because my contract won’t be extended. My boss, who kept telling me everything was good and I did a good job, not only not extended my contract but also wrote me a rather bad recommendation letter. Just told me in a meeting all the “problems” he had with me that haven’t been mentioned in any of the previous meetings. Just feel like shit and would rather never work again and spend my life watching TV shows…
Oh, and don’t forget that the AfD is getting stronger and stronger and will fuck over my trans best friend and my husband, who wasn’t born in Germany and has dual citizenship.
Remind yourself as often as necessary: that’s entirely your boss’s fault. Nobody is perfect hence I know you made mistakes, you human you, but telling you one set of things to your face while spreading the opposite things to others is just such a dick move.
You have some kind of worth, so don’t let your boss gaslight you into believing that crap that he spouted. Even if some portion of it were true, you obviously can’t trust the source. Find a better source of judgement - yourself even if you have time to heal although it sounds like not, so someone else in the meantime.
Touch grass, seriously, it will help - both the nature and the exercise part. TV has its place too, especially in healing, but you’ll want more than that as you regain your confidence. The good news being that YOU are in control of that!:-)
(I am no psychologist tho, just my personal thoughts)
Not great.
Last night my house flooded and I’m still cleaning up water and nasty shit. Everything smells like piss.
It triggered a fight over the fact that I still don’t have a full time job despite months of looking, and we are stuck in this place until I find something better than 3rd party labor.
My vehicle is leaking gasoline while running and the shocks are fucked but I can’t afford to fix it. My wife’s vehicle needs transmission work.
Also… gestures wildly around the US
Depression is a bitch and I don’t have insurance to go to a therapist or get my broken tooth fixed.
So yeah. Not great.
Damn dude, life is kicking you while you’re down, I’m sorry. Keep your head held high whenever you can.
Hanging in there.
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Not great. My depression and anxiety have left me bedridden in the last few days. I feel worthless and like the whole world either doesn’t care or despises me. I don’t know which is worse.
I also suffer from dissociation and feel like I don’t know who I am as a person, it’s like I am being pulled in different directions, and it’s a real struggle.
I hear you Tropper. We’re here, lean on us
A bit hopeless but trying to keep it together in spite of all the socio-political problems.
I think that’s all we can do right now
