Girl boring guy quirky.
And it’s ultimately insulting to men too, like the idea of being excited to share personal news is somehow anathema to the male experience.
Low maintenance friendships are the best ships 🛳️
I’m no psychoanalyst but it sounds like someone is insecure in their ability to love and be loved and would prefer to guarantee a balanced reciprocity of low effort on both sides.
I don’t know how serious one has to take themselves to find this “ultimately insulting”. It’s a silly meme and it’s funny because most men can relate to it.
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Just so you know, this isn’t Reddit. You’ve just been blocked by everyone reading along here.
If you start to feel like no one replies here, it’s actually you, in this case. It could help to try again with a new account.
I’m not even that other person, just letting you know you’re an asshole.
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Do we have an IAmVerySmart community on Lemmy? Because you would fit right in over there. Over here everybody just thinks you’re a smug asshole.
Isn’t it just boy and girl different?
Yes. Men and women are different.
“But I am gay.”
Plot twist!
Keep in mind they call each other bro because in 45 years they don’t even know each others names since they met.
Would die for each other tho.
I have friends that i know for 10+ years and i don’t know their real names
I picked up an order at a stor for a long time friend the other day. They needed his last name. Luckily I was able to reach him via text.
I learned someone’s name at work yesterday. We’ve been at the same location for like 8 months… and we have nametags…
This guy works
Ah yes assuming sexual preference based on martial status, just like friends do.
Oh, friends assume sexual preference based on other things too. Like the way you eat a hotdog, what kind of car you drive, how quickly you can recognize that the song is by Kyle Minogue, how long you hold a sloppy french kiss with your homies, wether you you sit with your legs crossed or slow down on a yellow light.
Damn, I can never remember how long to french kiss my bros either! Have been called gay so many times for it.
My one homie always wants me to hold eye contact while I’m blowing him. I’m like, bro that’s so gay just cum in my mouth already.
One does not preclude the other…
waahhhh there is a loneliness epidemic and nobody cares about men
This is very real, I felt this
I enjoyed the stereotype to laugh it but I feel obligated to state one thing. Relationships require maintenance, that’s it regardless of boy or girl. Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.
True, but I also don’t want to be friends with you if you get upset because I’m not constantly sharing my whole life story with you at all times.
I’ve had my share of high maintenance friends, and I burn out so quick.
But if you’re an incel and a Chad says “hi” back then yeah, it’s a big deal for those weirdos
Sure some people might say hi back but that doesn’t mean they’re a friend.
True. But I’ve had some great friendships grow after years of just “hi” in passing. We weren’t friends yet, but we were destined to become friends.
Idunno I have quite a few friends where we only interact like every 4-8 months ish. But when we do we talk everyday for a month or two, then go separate ways again. Lifes busy we all know that. Not being in contact does no mean losing a friend.
Most of the comments share my distain for this sexist shit “humor.” So where are the over 500 upvotes coming from? Who likes this shit?
I’m with you but just for the sake of hypothesizing an answer, it might be that those who like it or don’t think too much about it just read, upvote, and move on. While those who have comments click and share.
Who likes this shit?
People with a sense of humor who don’t get offended each time wind blows.
This is not even funny. Just sad boomer humor
It sarcastically describes my life as a man, especially when I try to be the top two people but every other man wants to be the bottom two. The title might glorify it but we aren’t.
Chill man. It’s a meme
A sexist meme. What’s your point? Is sexism okay as long as it uses these meme faces and is posted in a meme subs?
Light hearted not so sexist memes are fine and accepted by everyone
It’s not that deep
This is neither light hearted nor accepted by everyone, hence the existence of this conversation. If it’s satire it’s not obvious at all.
If you think this isn’t light hearted meme then I don’t know man. I guess you never opened instagram, reddit or any other social media
I think it is funny. I enjoyed it because like most good humor, it is a playful exaggeration on patterns that exist on real life. Sometimes those patterns break along racial or gendered lines, and that’s ok. You’re not a bad person if you think it’s funny. I get laughs out of lighthearted humor that pokes fun at men as well.
Are they really patterns, though? Or is it confirmation bias?
Even early psychological studies from 100+ years ago found that women, on average, feel and react to emotional stresses the same way as men. There are 100+ year old studies on PMS that say women, on average, don’t express more anger or sadness prior to or while on a period - and yet we still get hysterical women PMSing memes.
Media can make us see patterns that aren’t there. Media can change the way people view the world around them and affect how they behave.
I think it is a trend that men in general are less inquisitive about each other’s personal lives and discuss them less often, yes. I don’t think that’s an inherently good or bad thing but I think it’s true. Also, it’s worth noting that the “PMS mood swings are a social construct” theory is still listed as an “Alternative Theory” on the Wikipedia page and the handful of women I’ve talked to about it have all said no, the mood swings are definitely real.
Don’t let me get in the way of what you think, or what wikipedia and other women have told you. I’m basing basing my comment on the psychology courses I’ve taken.
It’s important to note that research on PMS has been fraught with medical, historical and personal biases. This is a very well done article on why the issue is incredibly nuanced: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK565629/
The other reason this is a sore spot for me is because I am a woman who lived with undiagnosed mental and physical disorders for over ten years because my complaints were disregarded as menstrual symptoms. I was eager to internalize that because of prevalent media that pushes the idea of the hormone-driven, irrational female, without providing the basis for those claims.
As it turns out, being in a whole fuck lot of pain and having doctors tell you that’s normal can make someone pretty irritated.
Sorry, I don’t understand. Were you experiencing severe pain and mental symptoms related to your menstrual cycle? If so, why would you be arguing against the notion that PMS symptoms are real? If anything I would think telling women “nope sorry, your perceived symptoms are all in your head, that is just a patriarchal myth that you’ve internalized” is more condescending than saying that PMS symptoms are real.
I feel like you need to read my comment and the link provided again.
I’m gonna be honest I didn’t read that entire chapter but I think I get the gist of it. King posits that PMS is falsely understood to be a primarily mental/mood-related condition due to the underlying sexist belief that women are fundamentally irrational and overly emotional. Sure, no disagreement there. PMS has sort of become a meme and a cultural phenomenon, which may cause women and men both to play up the mood swing side of it. With that said, “The chief complaint is one or more of the emotional symptoms associated with PMS. Irritability, tension, or unhappiness are typical emotional symptoms”. According again to Wikipedia which in my experience is more accurate than any single source or anecdote.
gay people cant get married?
Depends on where you are sadly.
Once again, Estonia is the best of the Baltics.
Estonia being called baltic and not nordic:
Why not both?
I think south korea recognizes all marriages performed by recognized countries, but im not sure where the law is at right now. it’s on the mend though
Soon maybe not anymore
He was starting to think it, and now he knows.
This is something I don’t like about guys, as a guy.
Woman bad
“I barely talk to my friends lol.”
“There’s a male loneliness epidemic.”
Maybe we should think about these memes less as complex thought-out statements, and more as reflections of the times they are created in, just like all art.
"I spend my free time playing Marvel games and Fortnite, I never go outside and never try to meet new people in any way.
Why is society making me so lonely? 🥺🥺 How come w*men won’t eff me? 🤬🤬🤬"
And this one even has a little homophobia sprinkled in.
I think homosexuality has reached a level of societal acceptance(at least in the west), that it is ok to be ironically homophobic again.
Then again, some might argue that being against nazis was a societal norm, so being ironically nazi was fine too. Yet here we are now, where being unironically nazi is somewhat acceptable by a large part of the society.
it is ok to be ironically homophobic again.
Us gays are savagely homophobic for comedic effect, so yeah. 😅
If two guys friends are dating it’s very important to warn them that their partner is gay
And being homophobic is even more acceptable by a large part of the society.
where did you get that from, along with 30 people who upvoted this
It’s a way for people to recognize that times have changed and that by making jokes ironically it means that yes they are accepted as gay and that we do acknowledge that it was a real struggle in the past
Yeah, exactly, I thought that that comment was forcefully trying to find the post offensive
It does appear this post is ultra based. /s
Bonus panel:
Even chadder face: “I married my husband”
Lol bro that’s gay, congrats !
I get what you mean but that’s not homophobic. I mean, it’s true in my case. Lol
Tagged as “insane misandrist”, it sure checks out.
I wouldn’t say this is an insane take from that person, or misandrist really. I have no other meanings in regards to what that person says, but in this case this is a sensible take.
The whole meme is about how women are “hysterical” and overly emotional. While men are calm and chill creatures.
It caters to stereotypes that view women in a negative light. I know exactly zero women who act like this. Most women are calm and chill people as well. Unless you of course call them hysterical or overly emotional, then they can rightfully get a bit mad. You would probably react that way also. It kinda infantalizes you.
I would as a man, expect my best friend to tell me if he’s moving, expecting a child, or is getting married, within a reasonable timeframe. That is within a couple of months.
???
I’ve now tagged you as “insane misogynist” for the sake of balance.
Your profile got tags?
I have tagged you as trolololol
That’s very kind of you. I’ll change my name so you can make the most of the tag. My new name will be… “not trololol”
Ooh! Can I get that tag too pls 🥺
What if I call you a stinky moid? 🥺🥺🥺
Thanks, I am validated now
Stealing this bc true
Did he just assume his friends’ partner’s gender?
I had a friend who excitedly told me about their new car but neglected to mention their 6 month old son.
Damn, really easy to spot the Americans in the comments
We’re all Americans here right? That’s why it’s called lemmy.usa, duh.
Stereotypes, get your stereotypes, fresh gender stereotypes right here.
Men who don’t marry are gay and woman are always mad at each other over nothing.
And we wonder why there’s a male loneliness epidemic
It’s because of women hating all men of course.
Something something space lasers!
Also it’s not manly to share your life with a friend apparently.
I’m 40+ and a couple of months ago started therapy. I didn’t even knew I needed therapy, went with my wife for couple therapy and it quickly turned into personal therapy.
What I learned after some tests is that I fall into the top 4% of men who are emotional closed off. This is pretty extreme, but maybe the worst part is, I never even knew. This is the stereotype we teach boys, men don’t have emotions, they don’t talk about emotions, etc.
Don’t you cry or I’ll give you something to cry about.
Good for you!
Thanks, it’s kind of weird how much change this made in a few months. It also really changed my relationship with my parents and made it less superficial. Can highly recommend to dig in your own past a bit and see what you pushed way down, and actually deal with it.
Thanks for the recommendation. I know it’s something I need to do but I don’t have the funds right now - working on that though!
I do meditation, journalling, but I know there’s more to mental health than what you can do on your own.
The guy didn’t explicitly say he married a woman, might still be gay.
My first thought ^^
Real
