For real. Everytime I get in the shower I end up having to point the showerhead away and cower from the cold water and I could have just turned it on first?

  • TrackinDaKraken
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    1582 months ago

    “I’m working on my masters and I feel like such a dumbass…”

    Never assume someone with an advanced degree knows anything outside of that degree because “they must be smart”.

    • @CosmicTurtle0@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      I worked with someone who was working on his second PhD in computer science and the guy did not know how to print.

      Literally couldn’t figure out how to click the print button.

      In computer science.

      PhD.

      Computers.

      • @kautau@lemmy.world
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        I’ve worked in tech for almost 20 years. A big misconception is confusing Computer Science and IT. Computer Science is generally more about logic, data structures, and programming paradigms across languages. IT is generally more about the configuration, deployment and usage of technology and operating systems for end users.

        There’s a ton of nuance in there, like Infrastructure or devops, where it’s about the deployment of technology software and hardware to power large technology services, which sits in the middle.

        That being said, I’ve generally found that the more specialized someone is in computer science, the less they know about the operating system they use and how it works. Especially if they spent the time to go for a PhD or something.

        The smartest programmer I’ve ever met is my boss, our CTO. PhD from an Ivy League school. Can write haskell on a napkin, even though our stack doesn’t touch haskell. Also doesn’t know shit about how MacOS works even though he uses a Mac, and consistently asks me relatively simple questions regarding unix/linux differences, filesystem stuff, package managers, etc. It’s very interesting to see the difference in knowledge.

        • @Taleya@aussie.zone
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          Absolutely. I’m a tech, hubs is a dev. Brilliant dev, one of the foremost specialists in my country.

          Can’t build a pc for shit, can’t fix a network issue, screams for wifey when the printer’s being a dick :D

          • @kautau@lemmy.world
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            Haha I’m unsure if “opposites attract” fits here, but perhaps “there’s no computer science without the computer”

            • @Taleya@aussie.zone
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              nah, no opposites here, but it’s been funny watching over the years (we met outta uni) how extreme specialisation has pruned other branches. He isn’t fussed, I buy / setup/maintain all the equipment and like all BOFH I’m a raging control freak so I like he doesn’t try to play with the setup.

          • @kautau@lemmy.world
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            Oh yeah he never has that Dunning Kruger setup I see from Junior people on the team. He knows (or finds out) who to ask and when, and always admits when he doesn’t know something. All super important qualities that some people learn earlier rather than later in probably every industry

        • @Wolf@lemmy.today
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          Wouldn’t it make sense though for computer scientists to make some effort to actually learn how to do practical things on computers? This seem weird to me, like a car designer who never drives. Sure you could probably design a decent vehicle never having driven one, but you might make a fantastic vehicle if you have.

    • @Zink@programming.dev
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      Honestly, speaking as somebody with two different masters degrees, it’s a good idea to not assume they know anything WITHIN their degree field too, until they prove otherwise.

    • Hemingways_Shotgun
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      There is a difference between “intelligent” and “smart” is the way I like to describe myself.

      I’m college educated. But I’m also the guy that took twelve years to realize that his stove had a cook-timer on it…

    • @jsomae@lemmy.ml
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      Famous physicist and misogynist “Surely you’re Joking” Mr. Feynman comes to mind. Didn’t even know you can’t have both lemon and milk in you tea.

    • @ameancow@lemmy.world
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      Being “smart” and “thinking” are two very different things. You can be very smart but have no conscious thought. You can be a great thinker without ANY formal education or experience. (Calm down internet geniuses, you’re not that special.)

      We might start figuring out how to get either one if we start understanding that there’s a difference.

      Your brain doesn’t work the way you think it does. Your mind isn’t entirely your own. Your language influences your internal dialogue, and if you have no internal dialogue, you need to exercise that by reading a lot more and thinking about your thinking.

  • @galoisghost@aussie.zone
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    Parenting. You think you’re doing great and you realise at times that some of the thing a you take for granted, you haven’t taught your kids.

    Just because they’ve seen you do something a thousand times doesn’t mean they understand why

    • Natanael
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      See also: why LLMs can seem clever and still be incredibly stupid

    • @sbv@sh.itjust.works
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      As a parent, I was surprised at the amount of stuff kids need to be taught. Stuff that I assumed was obvious isn’t - it’s learned behaviour. And you don’t realize that it’s learned until you see your kid struggling with some trivial task.

      • @AnUnusualRelic@lemmy.world
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        232 months ago

        As an ex kid, I only recently realised my parents taught me almost nothing. Even though I later learned a lot of very varied things, I could have started much better equipped for life. To people who chose to have kids, don’t be like my parents. It’s really crippling.

      • snooggums
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        The fun part is watching your kids figure out complex and nuanced things that you never even thought about, much less understood, while struggling with those trivial tasks.

      • @GiveOver@feddit.uk
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        An interesting one that sums it all up - crawling babies aren’t instinctively scared of cliffs or drops, they have to learn not to crawl off an edge. Which isn’t all that surprising except for the fact that when they start walking, they don’t carry this lesson forward and will happily walk off an edge. They need to learn it again.

    • @zurohki@aussie.zone
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      382 months ago

      I remember a story of a child watching their mother cook a roast, and asked why she cut the ends off before putting it in the oven.

      The mother learned it from her mother, so they both went and asked the grandmother.

      Turned out the grandmother used to have a small oven and did that to make it fit.

      • @MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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        22 months ago

        I immediately thought of the variant of this story I’ve heard when I read the post.

        In the variant I heard: grandma never had bakeware that could fit the entire roast.

        Same difference. I kinda like yours better.

      • @skisnow@lemmy.ca
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        There’s a weirder variant where they always cover meat with a draining rack while it’s marinating. After N years the grandparent visits for dinner and explains “yes but you see we had a cat…”

  • @TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I’m so thrown off by our current shower which legit heats up in 2 seconds. I was so used to waiting like a minute for it to warm up, I built my rituals around that. But this one… it’s just hot, like right away. Bizarre

    • Kualdir
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      182 months ago

      Same here! Moved to an appartement so everything is closer and now I don’t need to turn on the shower 5 business days before I want to shower

      • @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Some apartments with central hot water have a recirculation pump, so the water is almost always hot. My building has one. The water is always hot, but for some fucking reason the hot water is like right next to the cold water, but the cold water doesn’t have a pump, so the cold water pipes will get hot from the flowing hot water. Then when I turn on my shower the cold water will be just as hot as the hot water… for like a minute, making the entire thing fucking pointless because you still have to wait to get in. But I can burn myself on demand so I’ve got that going for me.

        • Kualdir
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          12 months ago

          I have my own water heater. Its an older appartment 😅 but that does sound quite inconvenient wow

        • @papalonian@lemmy.world
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          Someone else already pointed out that these are usually pretty well insulated systems that don’t radiate much energy, but also consider how many dozens of gallons of water aren’t being wasted by waiting for it to be warm.

          • @BossDj@lemm.ee
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            Nearly all of these systems are put on timers. So they stop cycling while you’re at work or over night. They’ll often make it a part of the smart home ecosystem as well, so you can override from a smart home device or phone

          • DosDude
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            It’s just dumb engineering to heat up a pipe the entire day for the 0.8% of the day you need it to be hot.

            • snooggums
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              Insulation + retaining heat means it isn’t nearly as energy inefficient as you think.

              They keep the water tanks heated all day, and not heating the pipes means they have to do more work as they are drained of more water to fill the length of pipe to the shower which will then lose that heat over the course the day, only to need the water heater to heat it back up again.

            • FackCurs
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              It’s typically used for large complexes like campuses where the hot water is made en masse in one building and the loop goes around all the other buildings. Helps keep cost down (at construction) because you only need one giant water heater. Helps not have to wait 10 minutes to bring the hot water to your building. Energy still gets wasted but given the number of users, not that bad.

              • DosDude
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                Have you read the previous comments? Because that’s exactly what’s implied.

            • @breecher@sh.itjust.works
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              In modern ones they learn patterns about hot water usage, so they are only active on max during the “busy” periods.

            • @Honytawk@feddit.nl
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              Heat pumps generally use a lot less power. Don’t need to heat up much if it is already slightly hot.

        • dohpaz42
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          If you have a hot water tank, that hot water is just sitting there getting cold just waiting to be heated up again. A circulating pump puts that hot water to use by circulating it through the pipes, which has a nice side effect in cold climates of preventing the pipes from freezing and bursting. I doubt it wastes much energy as you think.

          • @aubeynarf@lemmynsfw.com
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            Hot water tanks do not just “get cold”; they are fantastically well insulated. And a great way to lower peak energy usage by accumulating heating power, making it possible to use a heat pump to heat the water.

            • @BastingChemina@slrpnk.net
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              Hot water tanks are usually not that well insulated. If you want to save electricity an easy thing to wrap a good later insulation around it.

    • snooggums
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      282 months ago

      The distance from the heater to the shower is usually the biggest factor.

    • @MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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      12 months ago

      I think some of the really fancy installs have a secondary tankless water heater for the shower…

      I think I saw that somewhere.

  • @TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works
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    when I was little I would wait for the water to warm up, then pull the thing to turn on the shower head. But there’s like 2 seconds of freezing water in the tube to the shower head so I would have to really quickly pull it, run back to the edge of the shower, and block it with the shower curtain. It had a 50% chance of failure and I did it for years

      • @Ethalis@jlai.lu
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        Yeah, shower sex might be one of the most overrated things I know. It always feels like a good idea at first and then you quickly realize that the logistics of it are hell

        • @hOrni@lemmy.world
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          It’s not the first time I’ve heard this opinion. But I can’t say I agree. I like shower sex.

        • MerryJaneDoe
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          I think people set the bar too high for shower sex - and, generally, for sex in weird locations.

          It’s not about having a mind-blowing orgasm, or even about climaxing. It’s about the sensuality. Your body slick with soap and water, grinding against your lover. Soaping each other up, rubbing against one another, giggling and groping.

          Stop trying to finish your business on porcelain - you’ll hurt yourself! Retire to the bedroom and finish properly!

          • @Wolf@lemmy.today
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            The best is when you have sex, then take a shower together. Washing each other is a big turn on for us and we end up just having a quickie in the shower. Since we are already there cleanup is a snap. Then you can relax all clean and satisfied.

            I guess we are just the perfect height for doing it because ‘logistics’ is never an issue.

  • @blackstampede@sh.itjust.works
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    I can’t think of an incident like this off-hamd for myself, but I once dated a woman who didn’t know that women have a urethra. She thought the urine just came out of her vagina. She was ~23.

  • @chrislowles@lemmy.zip
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    Love that for once we’re mostly not mocking them and are actually sharing similar experiences, we’ve all had one of those moments.

      • @Toga65@lemmy.world
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        For me it was about 5 years ago, I’m over 30, realizing that my parents and extended family lied to me about watermelon seeds growing in your stomach.

        It was just so ingrained in me as a child that it took more than 20 years for me to question it.

        Watermelon is so much easier to eat now.

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          I learned recently that your can cut the two vertices that form the base of triangle watermelon slices (so that the slice becomes a top-heavy pentagon) so that they don’t collide with people’s cheeks when they eat them. You can do it on quater-wedges before you make them into individual slices.

          It’s seems so obvious but none of the adults around me did it growing up, lol.

  • @KuroNeko@lemm.ee
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    I mean, having lived more than half my life with water catchment NOT county water, letting the water run is wasteful and can mean you go without during drought. That means turning the water off while scrubbing, too. I’ve learned to embrace the cold on purpose at the end, with the closing pores n all.

  • Nougat
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    I didn’t learn until my 40s that if you exhale gently while getting water on your face, none of it goes in your nose.

    • @kazerniel@lemmy.world
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      I think I learnt this when I was taught swimming as a child. You always slowly exhale or at least keep the air in your nose slightly under pressure while you’re underwater, so the water doesn’t get in.

  • @saltesc@lemmy.world
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    Yeah. Took me like 16, 17 years to realise I could put a bit of TP down first to stop the splash making such noise and firing back at my asshole.

  • scytale
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    I don’t like wasting water, so I just stand at the far end and try to start wetting my hair until it gets warm enough to fully step in.

  • @Skunk@jlai.lu
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    I lived the same “realization moment” last year talking to a friend.

    I was saying that I need to go home to wash my white undershirts as I only got blacks left (small t-shirt to wear under a shirt and not freeze to death during winter).

    He asked me why so I have several colors of undershirts.

    Well, black and grey for black or dark colored shirts, white for white or clear colored shirts otherwise you’ll see it behind the fabric, duuuh, are you dumb?

    The answer:

    Or you can wear white ones under dark shirts as well and it won’t be visible…

    🤔🤔🤔😧 FFS dude, why did I never thought of that?

    • @BlueLineBae@midwest.social
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      I wish the same were true for bras. Women’s shirts are often much thinner than men’s, so a white bra might show through a dark shirt. It took me until this year to figure out that in order to make your bras less visible under light or white shirts, you should use a skin-tone bra instead of a white bra. Blew my mind when I figured that one out.

      • @Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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        I had the skin tone bra thing down pat, but blew my mind when I realized you can also have cute color bras that match or contrast with the outer clothes so if your strap shows it looks intentional!

    • BarqsHasBite
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      You can sometimes see the white collar part, unless that’s just it being weird how it sits on me.

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      You gan also use light grey in most cases, except almost translucent clothes.

      Why light grey ? Because you can wash it with dark or light clothes, worst case it get a bit darker or lighter. And as there is almost no color, it doesn’t spill on other clothes. Moreover, unlike white clothes, you fon’t have to worry about it getting a bit yellowish with time, the color is enough to mask it.

        • Dremor
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          But they still exists, and unfortunately some of my white clothes are now light blue due to one of them 😅.

  • @OopsOverbombing@lemmy.world
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    Best tip I can give: Turn the sink hot water on and let it run until it’s hot and the lines are filled to the bathroom. When you turn on the shower, turn it to full hot until hot water starts coming out, and then adjust it to your personal preference. No waiting for shower to warm up now. Just jump in.

        • @Korhaka@sopuli.xyz
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          Fairly long pipe from the tank to the shower so I could see the benefit of the tap and the shower mixer in cold water too. Not sure how the flow rate compares but the tap probably can be worth doing. I rarely bother though and just run the shower for a bit first.