Haven’t dated since Chapo subreddit got banned (related circumstances) and haven’t been keeping up with the social dogma anymore.

  • Fuckass [none/use name]
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    192 years ago

    I don’t tell them anything. I mean, I don’t talk about YouTube or twitter or Reddit, so there’s no reason to talk about hexbear

  • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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    272 years ago

    when you show them a post, reference one of our memes in conversation, or say something so batshit it only makes sense here. I call it “some website,” “a forum,” “a leftist forum,” or “my communist forum” depending on who I’m talking to.

  • Nagarjuna [he/him]
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    352 years ago

    You don’t tell them, they find out and you apologize but then don’t change your behavior

  • uralsolo [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I will take the fact that I browse this website to the grave. If anyone asks me what websites I use I tell them that the only thing I do on the internet is listen to citations-needed

  • GaveUp [she/her]
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    422 years ago

    If you’re a Hexbear user, you have to let them know on the first date and definitely before doing anything physical with them or else you’re tricking them

  • PZK [he/him]
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    202 years ago

    gulag You have already failed your mission by not leading with your conviction! You should have screened your partner for liberalism before considering them!

    Serious answer: Idk, whenever it feels natural. Truthfully, it isn’t something that has to be on your sleeve in “real life” even though it influences you. They don’t necessarily have to know. I wouldn’t consider it that serious.

    • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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      62 years ago

      I think you should mention it to a partner at some point. This place inherently ties into my opinions on world events and politics, and also gender, sexuality, and feminism, so I think I would need to share this part of my life if a relationship was really cooking. But I agree it’s not the only thing that features in those, and isn’t the most important thing in my life.

      • PZK [he/him]
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        22 years ago

        I see it as mostly harmless to disclose when it comes down to it. It’s just an internet forum that their partner would have to look into more thoroughly to decide whether it is good or bad. I don’t consider it anywhere near as bad or toxic as some right wing spaces, so it isn’t like you are showing your partner you love going to /pol/.

        • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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          22 years ago

          not as toxic no, but still very extreme and likely bewildering to the average person if they stumbled on here. I wouldn’t show someone this until I knew they felt safe with me, so that they could properly contextualize this and not misunderstand the discussions of violence on here.

          • PZK [he/him]
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            22 years ago

            Yes, but I would like to think if they had looked far enough, the discourse they would see would be coupled with reasoning.

            It certainly is fringe, but I don’t know, maybe I am just used to it.

            • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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              22 years ago

              A lot of people kinda shut down when they see non-standard violence. Like, once you endorse shooting someone who isn’t committing a crime, many get scared about what you want to do and only see the violence, whether what you’re endorsing is ending the inherent violence of homelessness by ending landlords, or shooting minorities

  • Ram_The_Manparts [he/him]
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    382 years ago

    The comments on this post is filled with cowardly libs, anytime I meet a new person I open with “Hello my name is Ram_The_Manparts and I’m a proud user of hexbear.net” because I keep. It. Real.

    Do better!