
I appreciate your input a lot. We have joked a lot that he is definitely on the spectrum to some extent (and in some ways so am I) and it is honestly one of the biggest parts about it that makes me love him so much
Everything you stated in your reply about how you feel, he has stated, especially with regards to space and downtime after stressful events and fights. Even the gremlins is an almost great parallel to how he explained it. I definitely struggled with that a lot in the past because of attachment issues; but, with therapy, I have definitely shifted to giving distance.
I definitely will work harder on making him aware that he is not at fault or the issue (I do struggle at saying the right thing to make him see that I won’t lie).
I do agree on the space/ personal space. He is sort of an interesting guy, I always offer for him to have a man cave, but he refuses. We have come to the unspoken compromise that if he closes the door to the bedroom or any room in particular, that’s a sign he wants to be alone and I do my best to respect it unless it is dire. But I will definitely push a man cave more, he really deserves the space
I will look into more resources and the YouTube video.
Thank you for this. I do agree there is usually three sides to a story: your side, my side and the middle. I do agree that it may have been a misunderstanding. I guess silver lining is this discussion happened over messages so we can both have time to reflect and hopefully come back together to figure it out
Thank you. I have brought it up but he is against any professional help based on past traumas surrounding therapists