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Cake day: March 6th, 2025

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  • If you are not neurotypical, especially if ADHD and/or ASD are involved, you’re not and never will be “like other people”.

    I try and remind myself about this. But It fucking sucks that some people diagnose themselves with ADHD, but have no problems doing stuff. Then I have to fight my mind and not compare myself to other people. Irl, I guess you just have to suck up, I remember my boss telling me I was a disappointment compared to my colleagues. People suck.

    Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

    Oh okay, I didn’t know about this. I will check this out in detail.

    If, like many with ADHD including myself (this was a fun thing to become aware of well into adulthood), you are not super comfortable with your emotions and/or have alexithymia (trouble identifying, describing, and expressing ones own emotions), it could be useful to find an emotion wheel or feelings wheel.

    I think I understand my feelings most of the time, but I do have difficulty controlling them.

    I have had trouble explaining why I can’t sometimes work for more than 15-20 minutes, but I’ve always attributed that to stress anxiety. Like my body and brain just stop and refuse to work all together untill I shake that feeling off.

    Thanks for the very comprehensive answer internet stranger, I appreciate it. The feeling wheel and DBT are something I’ll check out.


  • How do you manage between difficult and simple tasks? And Do you do the simple items first or the tough ones?

    I’ve found myself of two minds about this.

    Completing smaller simpler tasks feels fulfilling in that moment and helps boost productivity but doesn’t feel so good from a broader look back at them.

    Whereas finishing difficult tasks feels really good but they can sometimes keep going on and on and on and feel never ending. They might take up a whole day and in that I might miss the small tasks.

    Thanks for your reply.





  • I dunno, wouldn’t it be cheaper to make and wouldn’t be easier to look after as well? (Having all the plumbing, heating, wiring, AC in one place)

    Independent homes require a lot of work and maintenance, compared to shared Apartment buildings.

    Sanitary wise, I could see it being a problem in both the cases. It really depends on the people.

    Besides, just because you have land doesn’t mean you should use it. Trust me, living in a place where there’s virtual no trees to look at, I’d prefer to just live in a shared Apartment and enjoy the view (that’s going by the picture and if there’s one).

    Americans are too scared of apartment buildings because it reminds them of the projects, imo. That apartments are a poor person thing.









  • The funny thing is, I’ve heard about quite a few Indie studios that are just as bad. They do the very same thing we condemn AAA for - crunch, micromanaging, and even harrasment.

    I was very surprised to hear that the person who lead the development on monument valley was a massive dick to his employees.(Repeatedly would use management tricks and neg people to the point of depression and feeling worthless).

    So, I can totally understand the cultural success thing. Though I’d like to believe that we are better than the corporate management suite, I have to remind myself that anyone can be a dick. You can be a progressive left leaning animal lover and still be a horrible parent.

    I have worked only in the indie/AA sphere, and my experience here hasn’t been all that great either. But, I had always believed the problem was in the work culture of my country itself, and that I would probably find it better to work with those outside my country. No, people are the same everywhere, just of different flavours.

    Though I’d still prefer to work with like minded people vs those place capital over everything else.





  • That actually sounds like a great idea. However, I feel like that won’t be enough to stop countries from wanting to ban fediverse platforms outright(if they decide to do so). I even read a news article talking about the how the current US administration doesn’t like Wikipedia because they are spreading “propoganda”. Or like how thy are trying to force change in independent universities by cutting their funding.