Seconding this. I had kids earlier than most of my friends and we essentially got abandoned for years by them because they were really weird about so many aspects of the necessary changes we were making.
Thanks I guess that explains years of gaslighting and ghosting instead of just talking to us since we were supposedly such good friends. We weren’t pushing them on anybody. We had a sitter. People just stopped inviting us.
The few friends that stuck with us just made some clear boundaries up front and we’ve been cool for over a decade. It’s not hard.
That blows. I’m not a huge fan of kids but playing the fun uncle for a few hours every now and then is pretty cool. It kinda sucks though when I go see a buddy I haven’t seen in a year and they have to deal with the kids till 8pm and then be in bed 10. I don’t work so I can hang out when ever but it can still be extremely hard to schedule things with parents. In another few years though I hope things will be easier, 8 years olds can entertain themselves enough to actually chill with your friends.
I’ve gone outside or into the designated smoking room while hanging with friend’s kids and essentially was this. Tbf they were hot couch parents as well. Not bad at the job and the kid is pretty much an adult now and more well adjusted than her parents by a bit. They were old train hopping punx doing the best they could, but yknow the face tatted before it was acceptable were always around and stuff. It was joked about that she couldn’t really run away from home cause her folks knew everyone on the road
Go hang out at their house and play with their kids
Signed,
-A Parent.
Seconding this. I had kids earlier than most of my friends and we essentially got abandoned for years by them because they were really weird about so many aspects of the necessary changes we were making.
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Thanks I guess that explains years of gaslighting and ghosting instead of just talking to us since we were supposedly such good friends. We weren’t pushing them on anybody. We had a sitter. People just stopped inviting us.
The few friends that stuck with us just made some clear boundaries up front and we’ve been cool for over a decade. It’s not hard.
That blows. I’m not a huge fan of kids but playing the fun uncle for a few hours every now and then is pretty cool. It kinda sucks though when I go see a buddy I haven’t seen in a year and they have to deal with the kids till 8pm and then be in bed 10. I don’t work so I can hang out when ever but it can still be extremely hard to schedule things with parents. In another few years though I hope things will be easier, 8 years olds can entertain themselves enough to actually chill with your friends.
What if those babies are your little brothers or sisters, then do you wanna hang around with them?
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Heading over to do bong rips and watch the X-rated cut of RoboCop with your four year old rn
See, you get to be the cool uncle instead of the boring parent
This is less of a dealbreaker for some people than you’d imagine as long as you’re not hot boxing the living room or blowing smoke in their face lol
No me and the little tyke would be trading rips on the back porch while he goes on the four year old equivalent of a hot couch guy tirade
I’ve gone outside or into the designated smoking room while hanging with friend’s kids and essentially was this. Tbf they were hot couch parents as well. Not bad at the job and the kid is pretty much an adult now and more well adjusted than her parents by a bit. They were old train hopping punx doing the best they could, but yknow the face tatted before it was acceptable were always around and stuff. It was joked about that she couldn’t really run away from home cause her folks knew everyone on the road
That’s awesome. Glad she turned out good.
She was sent home in elementary school for having wayyy too scary a haloween costume. Full blood soaked black metal look.
Goddamn it this kid is way cooler than any of us
We don’t deserve to hang out with her
Edibles my guy.
“you wanna see something real fucked up, kid?”
I saw that dude get half-melted by toxic waste in Betamax when I was 4 and it is not at all why I didn’t turn out fine