Raebxeh [they/them]

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Cake day: December 8th, 2023

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  • Thanks I guess that explains years of gaslighting and ghosting instead of just talking to us since we were supposedly such good friends. We weren’t pushing them on anybody. We had a sitter. People just stopped inviting us.

    The few friends that stuck with us just made some clear boundaries up front and we’ve been cool for over a decade. It’s not hard.
















  • Identity is very personal.

    Because of how transphobic society is, one of the most universal feelings I’ve observed in people early on in gender exploration is a sort of imposter syndrome. It’s this feeling that, by claiming the label of trans or by considering that you may not be cis, you’re somehow deluding yourself or invading trans spaces. If someone has pushed you too hard to explore these feelings, it can begin to feel like they’ve somehow pressured you into changing who you are or that they’re the cause of all your repressed trauma.

    There’s also the fact that repression happens for a reason. Often, the reasons for repression remain in one form or another even throughout gender exploration. Things like transphobic family and internalized sexism are common examples. Bottom line is that gender exploration is not equally safe and good for all people at all times. If someone is trans, they need to discover that in their own time when they’re ready.

    What is appropriate is sharing of personal experiences. So the way that trans people often interface with The Prime Directive is to reframe those discussion and make them as pressure free as possible by focusing on their own experiences and allowing the potential egg to ask questions as needed.




  • Really depends on your troop leader. It was by far one of the cheapest extracurriculars we did with our kids. We had a good troop leader and most of the money raised from the cookies went to excursions for the girls. They also allow trans girls in now. Anyone who is living as a girl full time. Not sure where that leaves enby kids, but I’d imagine the specifics are left up to the specific people making that call.