Seriously almost all of my friends have kids now and no one has time to hang out anymore. This is bullshit and must stop!

    • Raebxeh [they/them]
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      171 year ago

      Seconding this. I had kids earlier than most of my friends and we essentially got abandoned for years by them because they were really weird about so many aspects of the necessary changes we were making.

        • Raebxeh [they/them]
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          101 year ago

          Thanks I guess that explains years of gaslighting and ghosting instead of just talking to us since we were supposedly such good friends. We weren’t pushing them on anybody. We had a sitter. People just stopped inviting us.

          The few friends that stuck with us just made some clear boundaries up front and we’ve been cool for over a decade. It’s not hard.

          • Ithorian [comrade/them]OP
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            41 year ago

            That blows. I’m not a huge fan of kids but playing the fun uncle for a few hours every now and then is pretty cool. It kinda sucks though when I go see a buddy I haven’t seen in a year and they have to deal with the kids till 8pm and then be in bed 10. I don’t work so I can hang out when ever but it can still be extremely hard to schedule things with parents. In another few years though I hope things will be easier, 8 years olds can entertain themselves enough to actually chill with your friends.

      • Raebxeh [they/them]
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        321 year ago

        This is less of a dealbreaker for some people than you’d imagine as long as you’re not hot boxing the living room or blowing smoke in their face lol

        • FourteenEyes [he/him]
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          341 year ago

          No me and the little tyke would be trading rips on the back porch while he goes on the four year old equivalent of a hot couch guy tirade

          • GalaxyBrain [they/them]
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            171 year ago

            I’ve gone outside or into the designated smoking room while hanging with friend’s kids and essentially was this. Tbf they were hot couch parents as well. Not bad at the job and the kid is pretty much an adult now and more well adjusted than her parents by a bit. They were old train hopping punx doing the best they could, but yknow the face tatted before it was acceptable were always around and stuff. It was joked about that she couldn’t really run away from home cause her folks knew everyone on the road

        • FourteenEyes [he/him]
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          101 year ago

          I saw that dude get half-melted by toxic waste in Betamax when I was 4 and it is not at all why I didn’t turn out fine

    • Ithorian [comrade/them]OP
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      331 year ago

      Good call. You can leave a one year old cat by itself for hours and still have time for friends. I try to convince my parent friends to do that with their kids but everyone seems to think its a bad idea.

  • Babs [she/her]
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    301 year ago

    My Most Adult friend has a son and that kid kicks ass and we can’t wait till he’s old enough to join us for DnD.

  • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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    181 year ago

    Easily done, I can barely take care of myself and the whole birth thing makes me think of chestbursters from Aliens, big scary nope.

    • Rom [he/him]
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      171 year ago

      God I’m in my mid-30’s and the idea of being responsible for a whole ass human being still terrifies me.

      • Apathy Tree
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        71 year ago

        Incidentally this is also the reason I don’t date anymore…

      • tamagotchicowboy [he/him]
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        31 year ago

        I’m 35 myself,its more the pure body horror aspect first then all the horrors that I could never provide for them along with it. Maybe add some Eraserhead along with that Aliens.