So apparently last night I screamed in my sleep. I didn’t know that I did, until I got a call from my dad saying that he couldn’t sleep and had to drive into regional Vic at 5am. Maybe it’s stress and anxiety, maybe the coffee I had in the morning, but I feel so guilty for waking everyone up when I didn’t know what was happening.
yo, just in case you weren’t aware that was an arsehole response from your father.
You hear a family member scream in the middle of the night you tend to go kicking in doors and if they sleepin’, you disrupt that bad dream stat
I’m tempted to start another account just so I can upvote this a second time.
I had to read the comment a few times before I could understand it, because a father hearing his daughter screaming in the night and not running in straight away to find out what is wrong and providing comfort just didn’t make sense to me. Actually berating her for it is just appalling behaviour.
@[email protected] the only question to ask here is WTF is wrong with your father, you have absolutely no reason to feel guilty.
This has happened about five times before, so they know not to run in.
The guilt is because I did something that meant no one could fall back asleep.
Yeah, what you do in your sleep isn’t really your fault. Don’t let this on weigh too heavily on you. Consider therapy, or meditation or sleep health stuff because screaming from sleep is an issue that your responsible for but not at fault for, if that makes sense.
Thanks :)
I’ll do a meditation tonight and see how that goes. I think the screaming happens at peak stress levels. Will also check in with the GP when I go in next because I do wake up with a blocked nose quite often (probably from stomach sleeping, but could be something else).
I don’t think you should feel guilty about it at all.
It’s something you can’t help and you’re never awake to it and your family already knows about it.
Yo, wtf, you literally had no control over it! Sure it is frustrating for them - I get irrationally triggered by the sounds of snoring - but it is peak asshole behaviour to then make you feel guilty about it. It’s not even like there are known interventions (like with snoring). They should instead be concerned for you and supporting you to get to the root of it (which benefits you AND them). Please don’t feel guilty about this!!! e: as SaneMartigan says, you can be responsible for it but not be guilty. Taking ownership absolutely does mean recognising what things are out of your control and if your family just expects you to magically investigate every avenue and work it out (without even being concerned for you, wtf) that is really cold.
Lol you didn’t do it on purpose, that’s the point. If you stayed up until 3am and screamed then I could see how you’d be to blame. But you were asleep, friend, you can’t control what happens when you’re asleep.
You don’t need to do anything or apologise, I get ya dad is mad but like, you don’t need to berated for this, and you don’t need to shoulder the blame!
Thanks, I think he was just tired and the emotional regulation went brrr.
Yep, I agree.
so many hugs, there must be something awful on your mind to have you scream in your sleep .
I’m sorry your family responded as they did.
In my view the fact this is the fifth time means it’s even more concerning, not less. Maybe talk to your psych about it.
Dog stepped in his shit whilst we were walking. But he’s clean now.
I checked on my dog this morning and he was laying one right near the letterbox. He’s got the whole yard and he chooses there. Fuck me.
He’s just making sure everyone knows.
It’s like he deliberately picks the longest bit of grass to wrap it around too.
I respect his hustle.
Sweet boi!!😍
What a stunner!
Come on 4pm. I’m already done for the day lol
No exciting plans tonight. Been too cold to go out. Just hassle the fluff goblin and maybe get pizza.
Was just saying to a colleague that although it’s been a short week it feels like it’s been 17 days long.
Fuck it. It’s beer o’clock! Cheers to all those who are celebrating something this week and to the DT cake day recipients. 🍺
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Cheers! I scored some leftover Red Rooster from work lunch (two small tubs worth of chicken!) and am homeward bound for beer 🍻🍗
You’re a WINNER 🍺
Winner winner, chicken… luncher! 🍻🍗
Winner, winner, a free fucking dinner 🎉
Cake! Cake! Cake! Yours is tomorrow, hooray!!
I’m celebrating work being finally over for the week and that I have nothing on for the weekend. OH has been told if he wants to socialise with people, to do it elsewhere (he’s fine with that, I’m not kicking him out unwillingly)
Chill. Relax. Enjoy your night and weekend 👍
Anyone want an overbearing 7kg cat that refuses to listen, insists on licking your face while clawing your neck, flicks kitty litter everywhere, opens every cupboard that he can, must be involved in everything and is currently nuzzled my fingers while I try to type? Anyone? Please?
Of course I’m not being serious, but he’s really A LOT today!
I don’t know if he’s real. I need a pic.
Oh, he’s very real. And he will YEOWL to remind you that he’s real.
so very beautiful
He’s a stunner for sure! He unfortunately really likes the taste of my face cream 😆
Oh I have one of those too. Licks it right off my face.
That white vest is there for burying one’s face into while repeatedly praising the beautiful, cute, very good owner of said vest, yes?
The vest is the Danger Zone! The earsies are Yes You ARE The Best Zone. And his cheekies!!
Ah, the danger vest, as it always is! Please give this baby a few cheek tickles and a good ear scratch from me 😺
He’s beautiful and fluffy. I’ll take him. You’re a bitch 😂
He’s already packaged up in the box, he’s coming over! 📦 All jokes, we couldn’t part with him, the house would be too quiet - although less stinky! Ten minutes ago I sneezed and he farted out of shock. He’s certainly a character!
😂 that’s so funny.
He is stunning 😍
He absolutely is and he knows it!
Look at how fluffy he is!
Majestic as fuck, I tells ya!
He’s gorgeous! I’ll put my hand up for babysitting duties, lol, I miss having a kitty around. You can just tape up that box and post him.
Your name has been registered in the Alfie Approal List, thank you!
He looooooves youuuu!!! Literally!
I did it! Teacher loved my presentation!!! 😭😭 OMG!!! I’m so CLOSE!
ONE question on the LAST QUIZ! AND I’M DONE! AHHHHHHHHHH!
YASSSSSS!!! THIS IS SO GOOD!!
Well done!
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💜💜😻
Onya 🎉
Aw yeee 🍻
Well done! Celebration this weekend???
I think so! I have sooner port my aunt gave me for my birthday that I haven’t tried 🤔😅
Yay!!! Well done you!
It’s a massive relief it’s all over now 😅💜 ty!
Yayy!!! Happy cake day too 💜
So proud of you 👏
Ahhhhhh💜💜💜
🥳🥳🥳 you go girl!
🤘🤘💜
Mickey for good luck and good vibes
This is now cat thread: add cat pics (and other animals) to boost luck by ✨purrty purrcent!✨
snuggled kitty says it's ok to stay under the doona if you are scared of Friday 13
Miss Meow agrees that sleeping in is the best way to deal with today
Black cats up high unite!
That’s awesome! Roof cat gang.
Friday 13th its bad luck to walk under a ladder, bad luck to see a black cat - so I think walking under a black cat would sorta kinda cancel out …
😅
Thank goodness we have Mickey. No wonder we have not had any incidents on this Friday the Thirteenth.
Today at the beach I found a red spiky sponge thing.
clear skies again, it’s very pretty here
I go for a walk on the beach and all hell breaks loose in the world
Sighs
Checks news
baileys for breakfast vegemite toast for second breakfast tide is low, sun is out
time to upgrade my phone
I am dreading transferring music, the apps seem to always change my import albums or album extras to standard albums and I lose a lot of good music
You gotta invest in a hard drive
I’m trying to not have stuff
Do you not plug the old phone into the new one and it copies it across? That’s what my pixels have done.
it changes the music
That’s some bullshit. Do you not have a regular computer to act as a middle man?
Ok, quick bedding change when Melbcat briefly got up. Quick cycle rewashing of a forgotten load.
When I get up again I’m going to replace the bin bag, throw out the stuff on the bench and empty the litter boxes.
Nothing got done today. Melbcat and I are being slugs
Those days are necessary, no matter how often they’re needed.
you got rest, recuperation and love done. 🙂🙂🙂
It isn’t Caturday but here is my feline contribution to ward off bad luck
Okay, I fell for it. And then sent the link to my child to annoy him!
😂😻
Melbcat just poked the very tip of her nose out from the doona and promptly disappeared back under
Wouldn’t blame Melbcat, it’s so cold today!
