Got cash out from Coles today and was given two hundreds instead of two fifties. Thank you Mr Coles, and I never want to move to a cashless society now
I did see the F1 movie yesterday. If you’re thinking about seeing it, It’s safe to say the film is best viewed on the biggest screen you can find.
For fans of:
F1 or any motorsport in general -
Jerry Bruckheimer productions -
Brad Pitt and his face-
It’s a typical Bruckheimer fare with big needle drop soundtrack, quick camera editing, sarcastic quips during action scenes, and the montages.
If you have seen Top Gun, Days of Thunder, or Gone in 60 Seconds, you get the idea. It’s big, it’s flashy, it’s two and half hours long and I will probably never watch it again.
6.8/10 Pitt stops
Brad Pitt and his face-
lol
Sounds like a movie I will enjoy: once.
Just keeping to myself today.
It’s going to be a tough 3 weeks until I can get my tax return back and that’s hinging on there actually being money to come back.
I need to brainstorm some cheap meals to save on money.
I also got into a massive fight last night with someone and I think my trust in them have broken as well but it’s making me feel really off today and I feel really down today.
Daal is another good one. It’s a great midweek meal that can see you out until the weekend
Tough to hear. You can do this though.
I got ideas if you need them, let me know if you have any dislikes or allergies and I’ll see what I can do. Potatoes go far.
Also please don’t hesitate to hit up food pantries or anything around, see if you’re eligible
I made a delicious soup yesterday. I roasted a butternut pumpkin, two sweet potatoes, some garlic, and half a dozen carrots for half an hour at 200C - all chopped up with some oil, salt and ground cumin. Then in a big pot, soften a diced onion in some oil, add a litre of stock, and let it simmer for 5-10 minutes. Add the vegies to the pot and blitz with a blender until smooth. Add a bit of cream if you fancy.
Makes about 12 serves at around $1.50 per serve, and freezes well if you don’t want to eat it for every meal. And you could swap out whatever roast vegies you fancy.
oh no,
I hope you can save your trust
AAAARRGHHHHH!
Alarm didn’t go off. Still somehow managed to pull off being only a couple of minutes late to work, but that was a major rush. Poor Mr Woof didn’t get his morning walk. Not a great start to the day for anyone.
Big day today.
Ol’ girl is going back home after her 3.5 week stay in hospital. Was only supposed to be 3-5 days.
After seeing her everyday, all I can say is that she really shouldn’t be (not in my control). Seeing her last night shook me a bit. Basically she’s been refusing 1/2+ the food when there and also refusing supplements (like ensure, resource etc).
Problem is after her head strike a year ago she had a TBI which has caused what they call non amnestic MCI which is a fancy way of saying impaired mind but memory still there. Problem is the only way to slow it down is food and excersise, both of which are not going to be easy.
So taking off work for a bit heading over to p’s to see if this will work. I’m not fazed by doing most of the stuff for them (cooking / cleaning / washing etc), really doesn’t take much time. Ol’ boy will get a cleaner in probably soon.
What I’m mainly worried about is that shift in personality over the last 3 weeks.
For example last night she asked me to turn the light down because she wanted to watch TV. So I did. She said ‘that’s great’, goes around to the other side of the bed and snaps at me ‘why is it so dark in here!’. That is not her.
I’m hoping getting some food in her after basically being on a hunger strike will ease that sort of thing up, but if it doesn’t then we’re in for a ride.
Guess we’ll find out.
Thank you all reading this stuff. Not exactly light and airy.
I’m sorry to hear :(
I wonder if some kind of home support package might come in a bit sooner. But also I know there are many things not in your control and post-release care isn’t always great
Thankyou. Definitely looking at home support packages. Definitely looking at the speech path, physio and OT stuff.
Also I hope I’m not overstepping but I would really suggest some supports for you. Not kidding.
Caregiving (which is what you’re doing) can be incredibly difficult and it can have a severe lasting effect on your physical and mental health.
Particularly for informal care which doesn’t have built in protections, supports, or breaks for the person doing the care. Particularly if it’s someone you’re close to. Particularly if everyone else is stepping back and putting the onus on you to manage everything.
Don’t do this alone.
Definitely not overstepping. Reaaly thankful for the advice. Honestly atm I’m open to all of it and really appreciative of everyone here and their thoughts.
You are such a good egg. Healing takes time and a whole lot of resources, so having you there is going to give her the best chance of an effective recovery.
Ensure and the like have an artificial taste that a lot of people can’t tolerate. There used to be a flavourless supplement, I’ll have a sticky beak and see if it’s still around. Edit: it’s called procal powder. Still around. Different company now through. There’s two main things; cook what she likes/feels like, and making sure every mouthful is as calorie dense as you can make it while she still likes it. You’re doing good work there, and it’s so so tough. We are all here as a resource and a safe venting place.
Really good advice, thankyou. Definitely going to try to make every mouthful count.
Agreed Ensure gets old very quickly and Fortisip is even more intensely sugary. Vom. One way is to make a cup of coffee as usual and pour in a swig of Ensure as if it were a coffee creamer. It dilutes it to a more bearable level. Decaf coffee with vanilla Ensure probably tastes a little bit like a fancy Starbucks coffee.
Edit: They also do pudding/custard!
spoiler
You can heat milk in the microwave and add sugar (optional) and instant coffee for a ‘latte’ or use hot chocolate packets to get some fortified milk down. Sometimes this is easier than a meal and you can tailor it to her tastes. Hydration is probably a higher priority than food.
Another option is nibbles. An open pack of biscuits next to her with a cup of tea. Perhaps even a lollipop or a cracker would be enough to stimulate her appetite and get her through any overly-hungry aversion. If she likes ginger perhaps try some ginger sweets like ginger ale, ginger bears, Gin Gins or Chimes. If it’s nausea there are dissolvable wafer tablets like Ondansetron that might help. Even some peppermint tea.
Also is she just not hungry, is she forgetting to eat, is she feeling sick, is she fatigued or having motor issues so it’s not worth the effort, is she having trouble swallowing? Is the food and drink not sitting well?
I don’t mean to bring up anything undignified but sometimes after bowel surgery there can be issues with things like post surgery gastroparesis.
Also after a prolonged period of not eating or only liquids, beginning to eat again can be quite difficult and unpleasant. A period without eating (or being able to eat) in itself can cause atrophy of the digestive system and bring on gastroparesis. Cue effortful eating.
Surely the hospital has a dietitian and a gastro that might get on top of this.
Feeding tubes might be an option but are an incredible removal of autonomy and may be a lot of risk for the results. They’re not always recommended.
Edit: Also as you get older, with cancer, or at end of life you can lose your appetite. I’m very sorry. I’m hoping your mum perks up a little and more support can be worked out smoothly.
I hope things improve for her. Maybe now she’s going home her eating will improve? My mum mostly hated hospital food and ate better when I was cooking. It’s a hard time you’re going through and we’re always here when you need to vent 🫂
better when I was cooking
Thankyou. I’m really hoping it’s the same thing that happens here
Feels. You got this, for the moment. Look after yourself too.
personal experience
Hate to say this, but I think it’s time you and your Dad got together and worked out a strategy for further cognitive decline management. You just can’t give up work to do the basic care stuff - that’s a non-continuing proposition even though it works well to look at in the short term. I’m talking trigger points for when more care is needed, and strategies to cope. And what happens if your Dad or you gets sick etc. Really really need to be on the same page. Yes this will be embarrassing to discuss. And some of the options will sound pretty cold and clinical but need to be considered. There’s professional help available for counselling/discussing this sort of thing, and using that might help your Dad and rest of fam take this seriously enough to be useful. Hospitals/doctors/clinics have contact info - and you may need an official letter from your mum’s doctor to access it.
I found myself doing what I thought would be short term care for my mum, and found out that the rest of my family thought I was doing it all so they didn’t have to, and this went on for months and months. This got old very very fast and I had to really put my foot down to come up with a more equitable arrangement. Some family members still haven’t forgiven me. One sibling’s spouse is still snarked that she was asked to participate (minimally) and that was more than 10 years ago. Eventually Mum had to go into full time residential care and she HATED it. But there was no other viable option that permitted the rest of the family to have some kind of a life.
End of life can be very distressing to all when its long drawn out and there’s no possibility of major improvement and a return to full independence. Just saying.
This.
I was in a very similar position except it wasn’t in my wheelhouse to make alternative arrangements.
Thankyou so much for your personal experience. Really appreciate that advice. i think I’ll get the ball rolling on that fairly soon.
You are always welcome always to vent and just get it all out here!
It isn’t light or airy, no, but it doesn’t have to be. This is what is happening in your life and to you, and it is worth talking to people you trust - even if it’s just this forum 💜 I get the pain of watching your mum deteriorate, even though my experiences cause was different, and it isn’t easy to look after them. The chores are easy, the mental energy and internal stress it takes to just be present and witness to it is draining. I’m so sorry you and your mum and dad are going through this right now, I hope your mum is able to settle down now she is back home and will accept food. Sending you all my love and good vibes, if I could give you some of my mental energy I would do that too 💜💜💜
Big thanks.
I think the mental energy and stress will slowly catch up. Guess we’ll see if I’m cut out for this (I have my doubts eek).
Oh this is tough. You are doing good. And vent away. Hoping things improve when she gets home
Thanks :) Hoping so too.
Hopefully your mum feels better being at home, and starts to eat more there. Take care of yourself, too
Hey man I’m sorry that you and your family are going through such a hard time. I hope everything calms down soon ❤️
Thanks dude me too :)
I was a lawyer in my dream. A lawyer for people in the pornographic film industry.
There were a few women milling about my office tending to legal matters. Gordon Ramsey was also present. He was demonstrating how to make a sort of rice bowl thing that looked delicious.The recipe was Japanese inspired and non traditional. A sushi crunchy roll in bowl form.
I remember Gordon cutting himself slightly on my sashimi knife, but it didn’t deter him. He’s a pro.
This is damn cool!
8:30am.
Nope. Bed is way too inviting to wake up properly.
12:30pm. Time to get up
Hanging on to every moment I can stay in bed before I am summonsed by the family lol. But also the desire for coffee. And my favourite breakfast at the moment: very grainy bread toast with seedy peanut butter on it and sprinkled with extra seedy trail mix type stuff. Perhaps I am birb?
It’s time to train the children in the art of breakfast making so they can bring it to you in bed.
Actually I’m a killjoy when it comes to eating in bed, I detest the crumbs 😬 Not much fun am I LoL
Atleast order a cuppa, mumma.
Yes! I’ve been thinking lately, the kids are probably old enough to learn the coffee machine. Time I shared my 13yrs of barista experience with them 🙌🏼
Today was our day of spending time with kids in a civil manner, so we went to Moonee Ponds and had lunch, then had icecream. Miniest couldn’t fit all hers in so I was walking around at one point with a double scoop icecream in each hand lol 🤰🏼 Bought a couple of t-shirts, a Minecraft movie one of Garett Garrison and one of Lisa Simpson in her “I am the Lizard Queen” scene. Elder wants a skateboard 😳 Then I got home and Miniest reminded me of my promise to bake a cake with her today so I found a simple chocolate cake recipe, we made that and it worked pretty well. In all it was a most pleasant Sunday.
Double fisting ice cream isn’t a bad thing. Sounds like a wholesome day!
Goodnight all. Thanks for listening to my venting ❤️
so many hugs, you take care
👍
The shoulder is better.
Hooray. Hooooo fucking raaaaaaay.
I credit Gibson
My friends sent me a video of them last night and it was really fucking touching. They did something really sweet and it put a huge smile on my face ❤️
just relax
cats are good buddies for relaxing with 😊
those are nice friends 🥰
One of my friends took up rock climbing as part of some larger shoulder work he had to do to avoid surgery, I wonder if something like that could help
(Old issue I didn’t deal with because sidetracked)
Hey I want to install Linux on an old outdated computer so I can use it, but a guide is asking me to verify the iso file and no matter the source I try the numbers don’t match.
This really held up what should be a simple process but I don’t want to install from a file that has potentially been altered.
What do pls?
I know mint offers this on their website, but that’s more to make sure you’re not installing dodgy malware instead, say if you downloaded the image from a torrent or mirror instead of the actual site.
It’s not necessary but recommended. You could always try to install since it’s on an old laptop you could wipe again if anything goes wrong.
Happy to help too if you need it
I’m going to double check. It looks like I went to linuxmint.com and chose Cinnamon.
And when the numbers didn’t match I tried mirrors (which claimed to be from reputable sources like universities and looked legit) to do the sha hashing steps on those too.
Seems in March someone on linux.org was talking about bad isos, I’mma read through and see if they found a solution.
https://www.linux.org/threads/linux-mint-cinnamon-22-1-and-virtualbox.56035/
It looked like there was more to it with OP in that thread. Maybe even download Rufus and see if you can flash an iso onto your drive with that alright. You can trial Mint on your machine before doing the install to test it too
Ok thanks, I’ll check it out
That’s weird - Ive not had that issue but I have to say I am often a bit lazy and don’t check. If it’s not lining up it suggests the download was corrupted. I guess you have tried the download more then once?
If you tell em which distro I would be happy to go through the steps and download and share what I did in case there’s something you are doing wrong (not suggesting there is - I don’t know how much of a computer person you are). But I am travelling so can’t do it this week because I dont want to be downloading over mobile hotspot.
Thanks for the offer! I’ve managed to create bootable installations and install them before, and run simple commands, but tended to skip this step. It’s not a problem with directions either, I faithfully followed the verification guide which worked. The numbers just don’t match.
It may genuinely be an issue with the isos as someone else who got as far as installation is talking about corrupted files. https://www.linux.org/threads/linux-mint-cinnamon-22-1-and-virtualbox.56035/
The distribution I was downloading was Cinnamon 22.1 but I’m wondering if I should try Ubuntu
I’ve only skimmed the first few posts but adding it here so I don’t lose it
Yeah that sounds like it might just be a dodgy download. It’s been a while since I played around with other distros (I am old and can’t be bothered and run Ubuntu now) but mint used to be my go to for older machines. It’s lighter then ubuntu
I’ll have to dig more into it and see what other people are doing
Good morning Seagoon 🌞
Good morning 🎶
No sleep !! But heading to the warmth for a week !! I shall give everyone’s regards to the sun 🌞🌞
Monstrous load of washing all dried, woollens still drying in the living room under the heater and it feels a bit like a sauna here after having done a quick vac. And with beans boiling on the stove. Gonna make another batch of my rootin’ tootin’ soup with swede, parsnip, carrot, potat (with celery and onion) and kidney beans… tomorrow night, I think. For tonight I’ll just cook the beans that have been soaking all day. I can’t be fucked doing any cleaning. Still need to make the bed which is something I loathe so much I feel like I need to vent about it here every time.
I do need to make an inventory of all the food to start using up in the pantry. Still more kidney beans, a heap of black eyed beans, urad dal (whole without skin, and split with skin), toor dal, chana dal, masoor dal… dried tvp mince, dried shiitake mushrooms, couscous, risoni, heaps of rice… no takeaway lunches at work for the month of July, I’ve got plenty to cook and use up.
don’t forget the barley, they make terrific toots
